I'm having a bit of an existential crisis regarding my bridal party gifts. Per etiquette, I've gotten them all a piece of jewellery (NOT for the wedding) that I think fits their individual style/taste/preferences, and was thinking about getting them each an additional thing as the jewellery was relatively inexpensive. I know it's not in-etiquette to buy them "gifts" that are specifically for the wedding, but I'm starting to get worried that I'm stuck between what's in-etiquette and what's "normal" in my social circle. Every wedding I've ever been in, we were gifted matching things (usually totes/makeup bags), our jewellery, and our bags for the evening. Until I started reading TK, I thought that was normal and polite. Now I'm worried that because of these expectations, if I show up to my rehearsal dinner with nice individual gifts for my BP, they're going to be left in a lurch come the wedding day because they won't have prepared to have their own clutches because they were expecting I would "gift" them theirs. Should I handle this by mentioning in an e-mail to the BP now about the accessories (and if so, what's the best way to word it?), or go ahead and get them matching clutches in addition to the individual gifts I've already purchased? My only reasoning for the latter option is concern that less than three weeks out, I'm placing an undue burden on them to take care of their own bags, as they might not have a "formal" clutch that goes with their dresses -- or is that an irrational fear? Thanks in advance for any advice.