I posted a little bit about having an engagement party even though we thought we would be hosting it ourselves and we've been engaged since November last year.
We decided against having an engagement party and just having a BBQ with our families and wedding party members so that they could meet and mingle. (its important to me for my bridesmaids(sisters) and FI's groomsmen (college pals) to meet, because I have been in so many weddings where you don't know any of the other wedding party until the actual day and it feels so awkward to me.)
I told my FMIL that we didn't want to do an engagement party, but just have a casual BBQ with close friends and family. Since we were having it at my In-laws home, she offered to send out the invites and essentially host the party. I didn't see the invites before they went out, but did see one hanging on my sister's fridge and it said "I DO BBQ".
I've had friends and family asking me if we're registered and what gifts we want, and I've been very firm in saying no gifts, its just a casual BBQ.
Any advice on how to right this ship before the party? Do I just go with it? or should I just let it go and try to make the party as un-engagement-y as possible?
Note: Absolutely everyone we invited to the BBQ is invited to our wedding.