This might be long, but I'll try not to make it so.
My mom is/was throwing the Shower, set for Nov 3, just a little over a week away.
Recent drama with my mom now has her not wanting to come to the wedding/shower.
It basically covered some transportation issues and her having her feelings hurt because FI's sisters scheduled me a hair appointment instead of her doing my hair (we were going to do it because of budget), the fact that I bought jewelry at the bridal store (not knowing she was planning on having me wear anything of hers), and that I told her I would like to go pick out our guest book (she offered to pick up for us).
I didn't realize those were such big things to her, but I tried asking if there was anything else meaningful I could wear on the wedding day & she wouldn't give me an answer. I tried to come up with some other things that I could wear that would be meaningful & I was trying to come up with something special for the day of for her to show my appreciation as she has been a HUGE help in planning (though swears that is not the case).
But the above resulted in her callig me a snob and bridezilla. Granted I know I didn't handle it the best that I could of, but what is done is done and I'm not sure I really could have done much to make it better.
She's no longer coming to the wedding (her decision) and she told me that I need to cancel the shower & that she refuses to do it, it's on me.
So, I guess, what do I say when I call these people? There's only 11. I need to do this tomorrow as some people are traveling 3 hour round trip for this.
Additionally, FI's godmother mailed us a gift because she can't attend... if the shower is canceled, do we send it back? What's the protocol for this?