His female bestie and sister

Re: His female bestie and sister

• OliveOilsMom member

  

  January 2016

  Knottie15770957 said:

  My fiancé has a very close friend who is a female and then there's the FSIL. I know traditionally all of the females stand on the bride's side and the men on the groom's side, but they may want to stand on his side (we haven't asked for their preference, which we thought would be better than placing them since I've never met the friend and his sister and I have a...rocky history), but my parents think it's really weird (too weird) to have "groomsmaids". Thoughts? ((If they were they would still be invited to anything that involves the general BP, I wouldn't want them to be left out of that simply because of where they're standing!))

  Generally, you choose your BP member and FI chooses his.  If your FI wants his friend and sister to stand up with him, he should ask them to stand up with him.  It is getting much more common to have mixed gender wedding parties.  Especially since you admit that you have a rocky relationship with FSIL, it would be better to have her stand up with your FI so you have less involvement with her overall.
  
  And if your parents think its weird to have mixed gendered WPs that is their problem.  There are certain aspects to a wedding that should have no outside influence, one is your ceremony and the other is our WP.  Pick who you want.  If your parents say anything, just say, "FI and I both picked our nearest and dearest to stand up with us.  To us, it doesn't matter what side they stand on.  I'm sorry if you don't like it, but this is what is happening."

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2016

  My husband's best friend is a woman, and she stood on his side as a groomsmaid. She referred to herself as the Best Man, though, because she's fun like that.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• SP29 member

  

  January 2016

  If FI wants them in his WP, they stand on his side. 

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2016

  I love seeing mixed sides and I am surely of  your parent's generation.  I suggest googling some pictures of this to show them that it is far more common than they think.

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  January 2016

  My SIL is getting married this spring and her FI's sister is standing up on his side. Not weird at all.

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• downtondiva member

  

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  collegechic said:

  My fiancé has a very close friend who is a female and then there's the FSIL. I know traditionally all of the females stand on the bride's side and the men on the groom's side, but they may want to stand on his side (we haven't asked for their preference, which we thought would be better than placing them since I've never met the friend and his sister and I have a...rocky history), but my parents think it's really weird (too weird) to have "groomsmaids". Thoughts? ((If they were they would still be invited to anything that involves the general BP, I wouldn't want them to be left out of that simply because of where they're standing!))

  Your parents don't get to pick the wedding party.
  
  There is nothing wrong with FI having these women on his side; frankly, since he's the one who's close to them, it makes a lot more sense.
  
  ETA: Personally I think "groomswomen" is probably a better term.
  
  
  

  
  

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• artbyallie mod

  

  January 2016

  Ask your parents why the possession of a vagina would make someone incapable of standing on the groom's side.
  
  In any case, it doesn't affect them (parents) in the slightest, so they can build a bridge and get over it.

  

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• collegechic member

  

  January 2016

  Thanks for the feedback everyone! I didn't think it was weird at all until my Mom made a face haha. Surely she'll be okay as the time comes.
  
  Thanks again everyone!

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2016

  collegechic said:

  Thanks for the feedback everyone! I didn't think it was weird at all until my Mom made a face haha. Surely she'll be okay as the time comes. Thanks again everyone!

  In 2006 my sister and I were groomswomen in my cousin's wedding.  We got nothing but compliments.

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• softkittywarmkitty member

  

  February 2016

  One of my best friends is a guy, he's going to be my bridesgay ( his words). 

  
  

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