Wedding Dresses

Re: Wedding Dresses

• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2016

  dyerwise said:

  I think is mom's and maids related... let me know if I should post to a more fitting board.
  
  My FSIL got married this past summer. She had bought a dress sometime earlier last year and then...never tried it on again until the week of her wedding. The dress no longer fit. In a panic, she and FMIL had to go purchase another dress 3 days before the wedding.
  
  FMIL has offered the 1st dress to me, not to wear but, to sell and use the money for my dress or for the wedding. It is a very nice offer, I'm just a little uneasy about it because... FSIL is a HUGE SPOILED DRAMA QUEEN.
  
  Some of her greatest hits include:
  

  • Storming out of a restaurant because I sat next to her Mom at her birthday dinner
  • Screaming at her younger brother (my FI) when we get got engaged because it "should have been her first"
  • Demanding that her BF propose because it was "embarrassing" that we were engaged before they were
    
  • Banning us from getting married in 2015 because it was "her year"

  
  The idea of her finding out that I sold her 1st, unworn wedding dress gives me cold sweats. However, FMIL wants it out of her house and keeps asking me to sell it.  Part of me wants to just take it and donate it.
  
  I'd like some feed back on selling it, has anyone sold a dress online? Also, has anyone donated a dress?
  

  Why can't her mom give her dress to HER if she wants it out of her house?  I'm so confused.

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• dyerwise member

  

  February 2016

  FSIL lives with her new in-laws and has no room for it.
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2016

  FSIL should sell or donate it.  Tell this to FMIL and thank her for her kind thoughts.
  

  

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• SP29 member

  

  February 2016

  I would not touch the dress. Not your circus, not your monkeys. Sounds like FSIL would unleash her wrath on you. 
  
  If FMIL wants it gone, she can sell it and give you the money if that's what she wants. Or she can give it to FSIL who can sell it, keep it, or donate it. 
  
  I lived in an apartment and my wedding dress hung in my regular clothes closet (still does actually). FSIL can find room. 

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• downtondiva member

  

  February 2016

  Regardless of whether your FSIL is a spoiled drama queen or not, she should be the one to decide what happens to the dress. I know your FMIL means well, but I find the offer a little strange. And yes, if you are concerned about how FSIL will react, you should graciously decline the offer.

  
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  February 2016

  I would not touch this dress wito a ten foot pole. Decline the offer. 

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• glasgowtolondon member

  

  February 2016

  FMIL is kind of out of line here, it's not her dress to offer out that way. I'm with pp's, don't accept it, don't sell it, don't donate it. Avoid!

               

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• AddieCake member

  

  February 2016

  Why the hell didn't they already sell it when they couldn't use it?  MIL should sell it herself or give it to her own daughter to sell. It's so bizarre she would offer you this. 

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  February 2016

  If FMIL is suggesting you sell the dress and not mention it to FSIL, beware. I'd be wondering if FMIL enjoys drama. 
  
  If FMIL paid for and owns the dress, why doesn't she sell it and use the money for her own dress?

                     

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• levioosa member

  

  February 2016

  This is so weird.  Run far away from that dress.  Give it back.  It's not your problem.  

  
  

  
  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2016

  Don't get involved in this.  Tell your FMIL, "Thanks, but I'd prefer to wear another dress."

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• Heffalump member

  

  February 2016

  climbingwife said:

  I would not touch this dress wito a ten foot pole. Decline the offer. 

  So much this.
  
  OP, if you take this dress:
  
  
  
  Dodge the bullet!
  

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• dyerwise member

  

  February 2016

  Heffalump said:

  climbingwife said:

  I would not touch this dress wito a ten foot pole. Decline the offer. 

  So much this.
  
  OP, if you take this dress:
  
  
  
  Dodge the bullet!
  

  OMG @Heffalump I am dying.
  
  Thank you everyone!!
  
  I thought it was very weird as well! but was just trying to think she had the best intentions.
  
  Next time she brings it up I'll let her know I feel uncomfortable doing anything with the dress!
  

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• VicTim328 member

  

  February 2016

  If FMIL owns the dress, let her donate or sell it.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2016

  VicTim328 said:

  If FMIL owns the dress, let her donate or sell it.
  

  Exactly this.  I mean, maybe she wants an ebay tutorial or something, but do not get involved with this dress.

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