Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend of six years is refusing to accompany me to a friend’s wedding because an ex who broke up with him ten years ago will be in the bridal party. From what he says, it was an awful relationship and its termination was slow and painful and led to the most miserable year of his life. But it happened a decade ago, and he’s moved on (obviously) and become very successful. He says that even seeing her will make him feel anxious and awful and he will be unable to have a good time. Obviously I’m not going to drag him to an event that he will be miserable at, but am I right to be frustrated?