I have this emotional thing going on in my head and I could use some other perspectives...
So my mother broke up with her boyfriend which she dated for 7yrs he has children from a previous marriage and grandchildren. He was a widow for a couple of years until he started dating my mother.
He constantly babysits his grandchildren since his daughter is a single mother who works and studies and has limited time off. My mother somehow has a problem with having his grandchildren at their house. This issue is mainly what caused the breakup.
I see him as a father figure and we have spoken many times and he has asked me to help him talk to her and figure things out. I tried to talk to my mother and she is stubborn as a mule, she says that she needs to be the priority or have first place in his life and then his family.
I completely disagree, I believe children and grandchildren should come first especially if she is not related to them. Then the spouse of significant other. What made my jaw drop was that she tried to justify her response saying the "bible" says that your spouse should come first, then your parents, then the rest of the family.
Can someone pleeeeeeeeeeeease enlighten me or something...please correct me but I think I understood that my mother just said to my face that her boyfriends come first, then her parents and then maybe me??? (which made me feel like crap)....