Dear Prudence,
A while ago, I found out my husband was cheating on me, and we separated. In the meantime, I fell in love with a friend, and he said he wanted to get married. The other night, the friend came over and, for the first time, we had a sexual encounter. The next day I told him that I thought it had happened too soon. He was ecstatic about the encounter and angry that I felt bad. Since then, we haven’t talked about it, and he hasn’t asked me how I’m doing. The situation is complicated, to be fair, because I’m not yet divorced and I still see my husband a lot, so this guy and I aren’t able to date for real. But suddenly I’m starting to feeling like a high school girl who just “doesn’t get it” instead of a 42-year-old woman. He’s acting like things are normal, but why wouldn’t he ask me how I’m doing after I said I was struggling? Am I just changing one bad guy for another?