I’ve been dating my kind, sweet boyfriend for about four years. He treats me well and believes in equality for all humans. He has one frustrating habit that I can’t make peace with, though: He reads a website that I am morally opposed to. It’s a site geared toward young men featuring bro-y, stream-of-consciousness pop culture content with seemingly little editorial review or journalistic integrity. While the news stories are fine, I can’t make peace with some of the other content on the website, like user-submitted photos of bikini-clad college students. And what’s worse are the comments: so derogatory, homophobic, and racist that they make my stomach churn.
He’s only interested in the news stories, but I still don’t like his reading the website because it helps keep them in business and further promotes this type of culture. I also think it looks bad when he shares articles from this site on social media. I imagine some people assume he is one of those horrible commenters. Because we’ve gotten in so many tiffs about the site over the years, tell me: Am I wrong to ask him to stop reading it? He hardly sees my point of view on this, arguing he’s not part of the problem because he doesn’t look at that content. I hate that I think a little bit less of him when he defends the site so vehemently. How can I make him see where I’m coming from? Or is this something I should just try to accept about him?