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Not the point, but is he the fiance or boyfriend?

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,
This weekend on vacation I ended up fighting with my fiancé and told him I thought we would be better apart. The thing is that I don’t know if it’s because I’m depressed (we’ve had a really tough year—he lost his job and went back to school, while I am in a challenging doctoral program) or because it’s really time to part ways. We talk about our issues, and whenever I wasn’t depressed his support, love, and encouragement made my heart happy. Now I feel separated from everything in my life and think that maybe I should separate from him too. It’s not like there’s anything wrong with him or that he’s an awful person (he’s actually a wonderful person). It’s just that I feel “meh” about everything. Complicating factor: He’s planning to ask me to marry him in August.

—Depression and Romance 

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Re: Not the point, but is he the fiance or boyfriend?

  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    So many questions. 

    If she's not seeing a therapist now is the time to start. It's great he's been there for her but there are a lot of red flags in that letter that don't seem to have anything to do with him, and everything to do with her. 

    Also, a fiancé that is planning to propose in August?
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  • missJeanLouisemissJeanLouise member
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    They're engaged to be engaged. ;)

    She sounds depressed. I get like that too when I am experiencing a low. I push everything away. I feel isolated so I isolate further. She needs to talk to a therapist and to her boyfriend if she want to stay in the relationship.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    She needs to speak to her doctor or therapist and get a meds adjustment.  She is sinking into her depression and pushing people away won't make it better, it will only make it worse.
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  • glasgowtolondonglasgowtolondon member
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    I mean first things first, no proposal or wedding planning till they figure out what they want, right? Put that shit on ice, stat.
                 
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