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Regretting sending Save the Date to long lost friend

toddone1toddone1 member
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Hi Everyone,

My Save the Date's went out a few months ago, and I included a couple of friends I had lost touch with, and in the past had been very close--so when we had recently gotten back in touch through facebook, it felt right to send a "Save the Date"  
Now, however, things have not gone as wonderfully as I had thought they would (renewing a friendship, or discovering we still have a bond etc) and I am getting a really strong feeling they are no longer interested. 
Am I obligated to send an invitation since they already received a "Save the Date"?
(Somewhere I read that it would be very bad etiquette not to, in case they are truly planning on it).
What are your thoughts?  Has this happened to you?
Thanks!
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Re: Regretting sending Save the Date to long lost friend

  • toddone1toddone1 member
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    Thanks for your thoughts....it does make sense....I guess the point is that I still think a lot of them, and that is why I sent it in the first place.  Maybe it is the fear they will decline, confirming what I am feeling on their end.    Well, it is always worth the effort to wear your heart on your sleeve...
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  • shortee426shortee426 member
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    If you are already feeling that they don't want to reconnect, then why do you have a "fear" of them declining.  I would be happy if they decline...I wouldn't have to pay to have some people there that I don't have a good relationship with.
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  • Robyn5298Robyn5298 member
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    Send them the invite - you'll look bad if you don't.  Then its up to them to decide if they want to attend or not.

    Try not to be too upset if they decline.  It doesn't necessarily mean they want nothing to do with you.  They could have life stuff going on that doesn't allow them to attend the wedding of a long-lost friend.  Or you could be right and they really have no interest in rekindling a friendship.  Friendships change over time and people move on.  Its nice to catch up on Facebook, but its okay if not everyone makes it into life-long friend status.  It doesn't make you a bad person.
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  • stellaellastellaella
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    This might add insult to injury, but this is why I don't like or understand STDs.
    Regardless, send her an invitation. You'll look like a flaming douche if you don't.


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