Since my BF doesn't want to move in together, should we move on apart?
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and I spend every weekend at his place. My apartment lease is up soon, so I asked him if he would feel comfortable moving in together. It was a big leap of faith for me, but I was fairly confident that he’d say yes. He said he’d need to think about it. And then there was no more discussion of it, even when I tried to broach the subject delicately. I didn't want to nag him, but with my 60-day advance notice to vacate date approaching, I asked him again, point blank, and he said he’d still need to think about it. At that point, I told him that I felt two people should be excited to move in together, and based on his hesitation, I was going to start looking for my own place. Honestly, I feel really jilted and very emotionally vulnerable right now, and I'm resentful of how much money I now have to shell out to pay for a security deposit on a new place, plus moving expenses, etc., only to stay at his place every weekend for the duration of my lease term. And, I think he's rather annoyed with me for effectively making the decision for him, and for pressing him about it. The question now is: How do I get over this in a loving way? Or, is it a deal-breaker, and should I see the writing on the wall and move on?
–Moving in Together