Dear Prudence,
I’ve never been very close with my father. As a child, he would constantly spank me to punish me for minor offenses, and that made me fear him. I have also always hated the way he treats my mother. I have very little contact with him as a result. I am getting married this year and have decided to walk down the aisle alone. Even if I had a close relationship with my father, I think I would still feel uncomfortable with the idea of him walking me down the aisle because I find the tradition sexist. When my sister got married last year, she had our dad walk her down the aisle. Since I told her my plans for my wedding, she has been texting me about how not having my dad walk me will break his heart and how I should consider having both parents walk me. I am so frustrated; it’s my wedding but I also don’t want to cause a family argument. Should I just give in (it’s only 30 seconds of my life) or should I tell my sister to piss off because it’s my wedding, not hers?
—Not Into Dad Walking Me Down the Aisle