• Images
  • Text
  • Find a Couple + Registry
Wedding Woes

BIL, the 'stealth' eavesdropper.

Dear Prudence,
Recently I went on a trip with my partner and three other couples, including my sister and brother-in-law. One afternoon everyone went into their respective rooms for some downtime and my partner and I debated fooling around. Then we overheard my brother-in-law in the living room say to my sister, “I’m gonna go listen to them have sex!” We heard him attempt to tiptoe over quietly where he stood outside of our door for 10 or 15 minutes. My sister did tell him to leave us alone, but she went to her room shortly thereafter. I’ve never liked my brother-in-law and now I’m humiliated, disgusted, and don’t want to spend time with him ever again. Do I say something to my sister? This isn’t the first time he’s been inappropriate; last summer he seriously suggested wife swapping. He and my sister fight incessantly and he has no respect for her, so I don’t know if she would even say anything to him, or if anything would change if he did. I think if she did talk to him, he would still blame it on me. How can I prevent this from happening again? How can I prevent this from hurting my relationship with my sister?

Re: BIL, the 'stealth' eavesdropper.

  • Call him out on this! How inappropriate and creepy. Also maybe talk to sister, she could also talk to him or if she knows you're going to say something it might be better to give heads up. Likely she'd be on LW side
    <a href="https://babysizer.com/geeky"><img src="https://babysizer.com/geeky-2018-06-08.jpg" alt="Babysizer Geeky Pregnancy Tracker"></a>
  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat Oklahoma City, OK
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary First Answer
    I'd say something to him about how I overheard him and how gross and disrespectful that was. I'd also inform him that under no uncertain terms would I ever be interested in swapping with him and that if he can't control himself, then he'll no longer be welcome to family functions.
  • Dude is creepy AF. 
  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten Detroit, MI
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary 5 Answers

    She should have humiliated him and called him on it in front of the whole group.
  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya
    Moderator 5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its
    Yeah I'da done/said something right when it happened, but that ship has obviously sailed. Personally, I'd avoid them both and be honest when sister asked me why.
    Image result for someecard betting someone half your shit youll love them forever
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards