My fiance and I really wanted a small wedding. Our guest list keeps growing and growing and most of the people on the list are family members. We have invited everyone from my fiance's family, everyone from my dad's side, everyone from my moms [step]dad's side as these are the people I have come to love and claim as my mother's side of the family. The problem with my moms blood relatives is that I never got to know them, I was never really around them and the few times I was, they made some pretty racist remarks to my sisters and i. I wouldn't recognize them outside and don't really know their names. My mom is upset that I do not intend on inviting them (with the exception of about 3 or 4). She even told them that I did not plan on inviting them. I asked her what she suppose I do as she has told me we should keep it small and we already have almost 200 ppl on our list. I don't want to upset her, but adding 50 more ppl(who I don't really know) would be even more expensive.I'm not trying to hurt feelings, but I've cried over this and am losing sleep....what should I do