My FI and I are getting married on May 6th, 2017. We are paying for this all on our own. So with that being the case, we planned on doing our flowers ourselves. Well my mother stepped in and said she and my dad would pay for it. She lives out of state. So now instead of just paying for it and letting us do the flowers, she decides to spend 3 times the amount on a florist. This is not my first marriage and my mom basically took over my last wedding and it was her "show". I get a text from the florist that my mom is calling her multiple times, changing the order, asking for flowers that I can't stand and over spending, so when she was given a quote my mom is irate. So the florist asked me to communicate with her this am as to what I want so she makes sure she has a clear vision as to what we need/want and she can quote accordingly. Did that and all resolved. So when I tell this to my mom, she is angered that I butted in, that I should of stayed the hell out of it, that it wasn't resolved til she talked to the florist. Oh mind you last week she told me she hated being married to my dad. I confide in my grandmother and ask her advice on all this and my grandmother takes her side and accuses me of spending too much money. Are we there yet?