So I'm in my friend's wedding as a Matron of Honor along with my friend "Emily's" sister "Alice." There are two other bridesmaids and one other maid of honor. Surprisingly this post is not about difficulty with 3 MOH. Currently myself and the other bridesmaids mesh really well and are all so excited for our friend. The only kink in the chain is Alice.
The wedding is June 2018 and although it may seem early to talk about dresses and shoes Emily is in grad school and wants to get things done in advance. She has graciously given us 6 dresses to choose from and has made sure at least one style will be flattering for each girl. The initial response to these dress choices was delight from all except Alice. She told Emily that the dress choices were horrible and that Emily was trying to make her look ugly. After this incident Emily had a talk with Alice and their mother and everything seemed to be smoothed over.
Then today I posted on our Facebook group that Emily wanted us to wear mint green flats and if they saw any cute ones to post pictures in the comments. Immediately Alice commented "I'll talk to her since I'm more comfortable in heels. (Because she has flat feet)" So not wanting her to bother Emily I explained that heels weren't practical for a wedding on a lawn and suggested using podiatric insoles. Her response was "Thanks for the advice I'll discuss this with her, the wedding is literally more than a year away"
Later in the day Emily told me that again Alice had complained and said she had to look good if she was to be in the wedding and trout Emily was trying to Mather look bad. I've told all the other ladies in the bridal party to ignore this behavior and to continue to go along with Emily's wishes for her big day. I'm not sure what else I could do to help my friend work with her sister in as stress free a way as possible. We're a year a way and I foresee worse behavior on Alice's part as the we'd draws near.