Honoring Our Fathers

Re: Honoring Our Fathers

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  MairePoppy mod

  

  March 2018 edited March 2018

  I'm sorry for your loss.
  
  You could still make a donation to the Kidney Cancer Association, without putting the signs at the tables. If you're having ceremony programs, you could put a note "In memory of Bride Father and Groom Father, a memorial donation has been made to the Kidney Cancer Association." 
  
  Some religious ceremonies have built in places to remember loved ones, such as the special intentions in the Catholic mass. 
  
  You could each carry a mementos - you could wear a locket with your dad's pic, he could wear his dad's watch or necktie. 
  
  Whatever you do, you should clear your idea with your moms, grandparents and siblings to be sure they are comfortable with your memorial. You wouldn't want anyone to become overwhelmed with grief at what is supposed to be a happy occasion. 

                     

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  Jen4948 member

  

  March 2018

  You can certainly make the donation, but I would avoid calling any attention to it. It could come off like a shill.
  
  You and your FI can wear or carry items belonging to or associated with your fathers, give them tributes in a wedding program,  say appropriate prayers for them if your wedding ceremony is religious, provide food, drinks, decorations and/or entertainment that they would have enjoyed, include photos of them in arrangements of family photos (mixed with photos of living loved ones), and have people giving toasts mention them (briefly, without getting lugubrious).

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  southernbelle0915 mod

  

  March 2018

  I’m so sorry for y’alls loss. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.
  
  Go ahead and make the donation, but advertising any type of charity is a crass thing to do. 
  
  To honor them, give nods to their preferences with your menu, cake selection, flower choice, play their favorite song(s), carry something special of theirs on your bouquet/in your pocket, maybe visit a place that was special to them in the days before/after and talk to them about this milestone.
  
  Both dads already had memorials (presumably). There’s a lot you can do to honor them without turning your wedding into a second memorial. 

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  MesmrEwe member

  

  March 2018

  southernbelle0915 said:

  I’m so sorry for y’alls loss. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.
  
  Go ahead and make the donation, but advertising any type of charity is a crass thing to do. 
  
  To honor them, give nods to their preferences with your menu, cake selection, flower choice, play their favorite song(s), carry something special of theirs on your bouquet/in your pocket, maybe visit a place that was special to them in the days before/after and talk to them about this milestone.
  
  Both dads already had memorials (presumably). There’s a lot you can do to honor them without turning your wedding into a second memorial. 

  This!
  
  
  

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  MissKittyDanger member

  

  March 2018

  southernbelle0915 said:

  I’m so sorry for y’alls loss. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.
  
  Go ahead and make the donation, but advertising any type of charity is a crass thing to do. 
  
  To honor them, give nods to their preferences with your menu, cake selection, flower choice, play their favorite song(s), carry something special of theirs on your bouquet/in your pocket, maybe visit a place that was special to them in the days before/after and talk to them about this milestone.
  
  Both dads already had memorials (presumably). There’s a lot you can do to honor them without turning your wedding into a second memorial. 

  Agreed with this.
  I personally did bolded {sewn piece of shirt into my dress}

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