I don't think you need to explain a gift.

mrsconn23 · January 2019

Dear Prudence,

About three years ago, I decided to lose significant weight. I bought myself an expensive designer coat in a small size as motivation. Now, I’ve lost a lot of weight but will realistically need to lose much more to fit into the coat. That’s probably three more years of having to stare at this coat in my closet. It makes me feel like a failure when I see it, and I’d like to give it to a friend who I know would really enjoy it. However, I’ve been very private about my weight loss, and I don’t really know how to explain why I have such a small coat. It’s also exceedingly more expensive than gifts we would ever give each other, so I feel like I’m going to need to provide some sort of explanation. Any advice on what I can tell my friend?

—Goal Clothing Giveaway

banana468 · January 2019

"This made me think of you. I hope you like it"

charlotte989875 · January 2019

“I bought this a while ago and never wear it, do you want it?”

ShesSoCold · January 2019

“This was a gift” isn’t technically a lie. I’d tell my friend it was a gift and I’d like her to have it since won’t fit.

Not really related but when my stepdad asked me to clean out my mom’s closets, I kept this winter coat of hers. She was tiny and had just gotten this really nice coat, but it’s a small. I couldn’t even zip it, I’ve never been a small of any kind but for some reason I kept it. And apparently, despite what I’ve been telling myself my entire life, my hips are capable of being “small” and that’s my favorite coat now.

Ya never know, LW. Wearing that coat in three years or forty years might feel really fucking good.

edited for typos. Typing on mobile sucks.

kvruns · January 2019

If you're good enough friends to give a designer coat you should be good enough friends to where this other person wouldn't care about your reasoning on why you purchased it. I also don't get the line about being private about her weight loss because she also says she's lost a a lot of weight which would be noticeable to people presumably. Maybe she just means she doesn't really talk about it, even with friends?

short+sassy · January 2019

charlotte989875 said:

“I bought this a while ago and never wear it, do you want it?”

I think this is the best response. It probably wouldn't even occur to the friend that the size is way too small for the LW.

I also think the LW, if they haven't already, should buy themselves a hot new, splurge outfit that they feel amazing in. As a reward for their 3 years of dedication. Maybe they can only wear it for a relatively short time as they continue to lose weight, but it would be worth it and I think they need the pep.

I don't think you need to explain a gift.

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