My best friend asked me to be her MOH before she was even engaged. A couple months after she got engaged, she asked another girl to be a second MOH (which I have no problem with). Is it wrong of me to be annoyed/offended that the other MOH reached out to the rest of us in the bridal party saying that she and the bride's mom were chatting and were trying to get some dates for the bride's shower? I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, and I don't know the circumstances under which they were chatting, but after reading that text I felt super excluded. I get that it's just some preliminary planning before getting the rest of the bridal party involved, but I also feel like that initial stuff is part of the the MOH's job (all of them, if there is more than one). And that these type of discussions should always involve all 3 of us. I don't know who reached out to who, or if this convo happened in person, but would you say something to someone (other MOH, mom?)?