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Do her a favor and break up with her now.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

I’m dating a beautiful, caring woman whom I had felt madly in love with, and we’ve been together for nearly six months. We’ve said “I love you,” but I’ve been clear about taking it slow. A few weeks ago, I met an acquaintance of my girlfriend (they’re not close friends) and was absolutely smitten with her out of the blue. We only talked for several minutes, and I firmly put her out of my mind, but that only lasted so long. I looked her up on Facebook and discovered that we had the same college major and are both avid runners. When we first spoke, I felt that sparks were flying beneath the surface, though I stayed very formal the entire time. Since then I haven’t felt as attracted to my current girlfriend, and I’ve been wishing I was single so I could ask out this other woman. Am I leading my girlfriend on by continuing to stay with her, even though I’m thinking about this other woman? Is it absurd to consider ending this previously solid relationship for the hope that, once I’m single, I’ll be able to ask out this other woman and see where things go?

—Feeling Torn
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Re: Do her a favor and break up with her now.

  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    Break. Up. With. Your. Gf.
     
    Idc what LW does after, but if you're clearly not as attracted to gf then don't stick around.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    You need to figure out if you're in love with your GF or if you're in love with the complacency of a long term relationship.

    You also need to face the very real possibility that this person may not be into you.

    But first thing's first: figure out if you're attracted to your girlfriend.   If you aren't then end this now for her sake and yours. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Is this a crush, or is it more? It’s fine in any long term relationship to occasionally think about the other fish swimming around out there, but if it’s more than that do the right thing and end it now. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Sounds like LW is not really in love with the girlfriend. Break up with her! 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Ew. You’re an asshole LW. You don’t deserve either woman. And your GF certainly deserves someone better than you. 


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  • kvrunskvruns member
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    Am I the only one who keeps singing that Ariana Grande song every time I see this? 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    Pretty much ditto, you all.  Especially @VarunaTT's gif.

    Mr. Fickle, definitely break up with your g/f.  You are obviously not in love with her or feeling that committed to her.

    Try to go after the other woman if you want.  It's a plethora of long shots, but you do you.  She may not reply at all.  She might give you a flat no.  On the off chance she agrees to a date, it may not go well.

    Really, really long shot.  You all hit it off and start a relationship.  Fast forward 6 months when things aren't totally fresh and brand-new.  That new barista at my favorite coffee shop!  I just know from our snippets of conversation and the special way she smiles at me that we are made for each other!  If only I were single...
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    kvruns said:
    Am I the only one who keeps singing that Ariana Grande song every time I see this? 
    "problem" ?
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    kvruns said:
    Am I the only one who keeps singing that Ariana Grande song every time I see this? 
    "problem" ?
    No, Break Up With Your Girlfriend ('cause I'm bored). 

    And yes, totally sang it as I wrote the post title. ;) 
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    mrsconn23 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    kvruns said:
    Am I the only one who keeps singing that Ariana Grande song every time I see this? 
    "problem" ?
    No, Break Up With Your Girlfriend ('cause I'm bored). 

    And yes, totally sang it as I wrote the post title. ;) 
    I was thinking, Thank U, Next.

    Also sang it as typing.  :D
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    VarunaTT said:
    mrsconn23 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    kvruns said:
    Am I the only one who keeps singing that Ariana Grande song every time I see this? 
    "problem" ?
    No, Break Up With Your Girlfriend ('cause I'm bored). 

    And yes, totally sang it as I wrote the post title. ;) 
    I was thinking, Thank U, Next.

    Also sang it as typing.  :D
    I like that one too.  :D  I actually haven't found much from Ms. Grande I don't like.  But I shamelessly love pop music, so... ;) 
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