Hi there! I'm recently struggling to decide whether or not to have my cousin-in-law as a bridesmaid at my wedding. At first, I thought, of course, because I love her, and we get along great, and she and her husband (my cousin) introduced me to my now fiance. However, my fiance isn't going to have my cousin, who is also his friend, in his party. This cousin is like a big brother to me, so I was a little shocked my fiance didn't want him in his party, but he has chosen childhood friends and cousins to be in his party, so I can also understand because I am doing the same.
My question is, is it awkward to have her in the bridal party and not my cousin, her husband? Do you think it will hurt her husband's feelings? Should I leave her out of the bridal party to avoid the issue? Note, she also volunteered to do my floral, so she will still be a part of the wedding planning process.