Send a short note and a couple of the best pics you have.

Re: Send a short note and a couple of the best pics you have.

• banana468 member

  

  September 2021

  mrsconn23 said:

  Dear Prudence,

  I have a 14-year-old dog, “Max.” He’s in good health at the moment fortunately, but my younger dog died recently due to cancer, so I have been coming to terms with the fact that Max won’t be around forever. Max was 4 months old when he came into my life as a gift (I know, dogs shouldn’t be gifts! He was adopted from a kill shelter at least) from my ex-husband as an anniversary present. We ended up getting divorced two years later, and I’ve since remarried. Since Max was a gift, we decided that I should keep him. My ex and I didn’t have any kids together, and I moved out of state after our divorce so we haven’t had any contact in the interim. It wasn’t a messy breakup, but he did have some hurt feelings. When Max passes away, I want to send my ex an email with some photos of Max over the years to thank him for giving me such a wonderful gift and letting him know that Max had a great life. I’ve discussed this with my current husband and he supports whatever I want to do, but I’m torn. I don’t want to stir up old emotions, but I also feel like my ex would want to know about Max.

  — Max’s Mom

  Yup - send a short note and a few pics.    

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2021

  Short note and a few pictures should be good.
  
  We had a cat that my parents got from my mum's friend. When cat passed away, we did advise her that he did with a little update {we had minimal contact with her but still had some}
  It wasn't a huge thing but more "fyi, he lived a good life and here are some photos"

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  September 2021

  You haven't spoken in the better part of 12 years, and he's not checking in on Max. 
  
  I'd let sleeping dogs lie here. 

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• climbingsingle member

  

  September 2021 edited September 2021

  MyNameIsNot said:

  You haven't spoken in the better part of 12 years, and he's not checking in on Max. 
  
  I'd let sleeping dogs lie here. 

  Same. It's been 12 years. 

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• short+sassy member

  

  September 2021

  Since the LW thinks the ex would want to know, I think sending a short note with a few pics sounds like a great idea.
  
  Even a "worse case scenario" is the ex doesn't especially care about what happened to Max and thinks, "Okay, whatever, not sure why she e-mailed me."  Deletes the e-mail and doesn't give it another thought.  But I think it's more likely he will appreciate knowing and some pics will bring back fond memories. 

  

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• downtondiva member

  

  September 2021

  If you'd had at least occasional contact with your ex since you broke up, I'd say go ahead and send a nice email and some pictures of Max. But since you haven't been in touch at all since the divorce, I don't think there's any point. You've both moved on with your lives long ago, so I'd say leave well enough alone.

  
  

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• kerbohl member

  

  October 2021

  I say send the note and the pics.  I took in a colleague's rabbit when she couldn't take care of him anymore.  I had him for 8 years, and while we were facebook friends we didn't talk too much.  When he passed, I let her know and she really appreciated it.  

  
  

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