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    banana468banana468 member
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    @flantastic, tons of sticky T&P for you!

    @MissKittyDanger the only time I'd start to step in is if the family was truly being offensive and your H was a doormat.  I have felt protective of my H at times too and have even asked, "Why don't you speak up when X and Y do this?" and the answer is that it's often just not a battle he wants to pick.  If these aren't the people who call you when they need something I would try to let it go.  I have seen DH lament spiteful behavior witnessed in his family and I have to say it's one of the things that I respect about him the most.  He really tries to practice what he preaches there and actively looks to be considerate and not invent a reason for a battle.  I have plenty about him that I can call a grip but that isn't it. 
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    kvrunskvruns member
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    happy birthday @flantastic I hope you get to celebrate it well on another day

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    charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    All the good thoughts for you @flantastic!!
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    MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    @kerbohl That's a rough spot your H is in. Glad he was able to bring it up and at least talk to you about it a bit. Hopefully he follows through and gets someone to talk to. If he seems hesitant, maybe explain it as someone who doesn't know him might be able to help better than you? {like a non-biased opinion}



    Thanks everyone. Tbh I have a lot more feelings about how that side of M's family is vs M because he just lets it all roll off.
    He doesn't get mad his dad never calls or anything but I do.
    Like ... things rarely bother him. Maybe he's bottling it up?

    He's a lot of "oh that's how things are"
    I'm like this with my H's family too. It took me a while, but I had to learn a lot about how family dynamics aren't the same for everyone, and something that would be considered a massive problem to me or in my family just isn't for his. It's hard not to judge his family members from the lens of what would be expected in our own families.  

    It's possible that M is bottling it up, but it's entirely possible that he's just not upset about it at all. If he says he's not bothered, you really have to take him at his word. 
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    charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    CharmedPam said:
    Happy Birthday @flantastic!
    looks like you all had great weekends. @ei34 I get emotional with stuff like that too. 
    @charlotte989875 that’s the pits.  Do you have other parents to talk to to see where they’re going?
    @ILoveBeachMusic

    weekend/week was great.  My sister picked me up at the airport and she walked in the house first.  Then me a minute later.  The look on my neices faces!  Surprised they were. I spent a lot of time with family members and ate lots of food (perogies overload!).  Getting back on track today was not easy.
    on Saturday night, my oldest neice got sick.  So I tended to her (we were camping) and then on Wednesday the youngest got sick and I had to tend to her (we had a sleepover at a hotel).  So yay for that.  Lol.
    Friday we drove home. I got a great deal on perfume ar duty free and then we stopped at a casino halfway home. After dinner I sat down on a slot machine. Three turns in - I hit the jackpot.  Like, needed a W2 jackpot! Which is fantastic because the weeks leading up to this, I started to spend $ like I knew I was going to win or something? I had no idea how I was going to pay my cc’s. Phew!
    Home on Saturday to return my awful hulu TV and then Sunday I was downtown at a cemetery for a meetup group. Cemetery tour. Great weekend all in all.
    CharmedPam said:
    Happy Birthday @flantastic!
    looks like you all had great weekends. @ei34 I get emotional with stuff like that too. 
    @charlotte989875 that’s the pits.  Do you have other parents to talk to to see where they’re going?
    @ILoveBeachMusic

    weekend/week was great.  My sister picked me up at the airport and she walked in the house first.  Then me a minute later.  The look on my neices faces!  Surprised they were. I spent a lot of time with family members and ate lots of food (perogies overload!).  Getting back on track today was not easy.
    on Saturday night, my oldest neice got sick.  So I tended to her (we were camping) and then on Wednesday the youngest got sick and I had to tend to her (we had a sleepover at a hotel).  So yay for that.  Lol.
    Friday we drove home. I got a great deal on perfume ar duty free and then we stopped at a casino halfway home. After dinner I sat down on a slot machine. Three turns in - I hit the jackpot.  Like, needed a W2 jackpot! Which is fantastic because the weeks leading up to this, I started to spend $ like I knew I was going to win or something? I had no idea how I was going to pay my cc’s. Phew!
    Home on Saturday to return my awful hulu TV and then Sunday I was downtown at a cemetery for a meetup group. Cemetery tour. Great weekend all in all.
    Because we never actually started we don’t know any other parents there. We have recommendations from friends but everywhere the waitlists are incredibly long. 

    Way to go on the jackpot!! Hope you spend some of it on something super fun! 
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    MyNameIsNot said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    @kerbohl That's a rough spot your H is in. Glad he was able to bring it up and at least talk to you about it a bit. Hopefully he follows through and gets someone to talk to. If he seems hesitant, maybe explain it as someone who doesn't know him might be able to help better than you? {like a non-biased opinion}



    Thanks everyone. Tbh I have a lot more feelings about how that side of M's family is vs M because he just lets it all roll off.
    He doesn't get mad his dad never calls or anything but I do.
    Like ... things rarely bother him. Maybe he's bottling it up?

    He's a lot of "oh that's how things are"
    I'm like this with my H's family too. It took me a while, but I had to learn a lot about how family dynamics aren't the same for everyone, and something that would be considered a massive problem to me or in my family just isn't for his. It's hard not to judge his family members from the lens of what would be expected in our own families.  

    It's possible that M is bottling it up, but it's entirely possible that he's just not upset about it at all. If he says he's not bothered, you really have to take him at his word. 
    I definitely know their dynamic is different.
    I've already broached the idea of not doing xmas at anyone's place and next year telling people they can come between x & y to see BK and do gift exchange.

    My parents did that for years because they didn't want to do the run around, and I get it more now than ever with BK
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    ei34ei34 member
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    @flantastic birthday wishes and sticky thoughts!!
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    My friend who got Covid last week is feeling better, but now her wife is quite sick with Covid. I ordered her a pulse oximeter, going to pick it up and deliver later today. Any other ideas for good stuff for a care package I could pick up at a CVS?
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    CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Thanks! I don’t normally gamble and I was done in 2 hours. Once I realized my lucky was going down, I called it a night!

    Glad you’re feeling better @levioosa, and hopefully that break helped.

    @STARMOON44, what luck that family is having :( Hopefully its not a serious case. How nice of you to bring her something. Aside from snacks and treats (because who doesn’t like those?) maybe they have something like this? I got mine at walmart.  It’s for immune support and they actually taste pretty good!

    https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XVYR19G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_N42KC53M49QVJE4VQ8W8

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    MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @CharmedPam omg lololol
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    levioosalevioosa member
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    @STARMOON44 ideas: DayQuil/NyQuil, throat lozenges or the numbing throat spray, soup or other ready made comfort foods, Door Dash giftcard, sanitizing wipes, cozy blanket

    the pulse ox is great and I’m glad you’re getting that for them if she’s not doing super well. 


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    CharmedPam said:
    Word on the street is that someone totally deleted Facebook's DNS and the domain was showing up as available for purchase this morning. Twitter is saying that internal employees can't even get on their emails. It's all just gone. Chaos!! 

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    Well it's back up now. I will be interested to hear what happened, even though FB corp will just say something routine. DH will probably hear through channels. Honestly, I hope it is a wake up for many businesses and governments that they can't rely on these social media platforms to conduct official business. I know it sounds weird but outside the US Facebook, IG, and WhatsApp are often the most reliable hosting site and people use them like Americans use a .gov or a square space website. It is bananas.
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    ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    T&P @flantastic!
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