Okay, so here's my issue. I've been engaged for a long time (since the middle of my sophomore year of college) and now that I've graduated, my fiance and I have finally set a date (July 13, 2013) and booked our venue. When I first got engaged, I told my friends the news and they were all very excited for me. I can't remember if I asked them to be bridesmaids or if they sort of assumed or what. Anyway, my best friend at college and I were super close, so we did talk about her being one of my bridesmaids and helping me with the wedding and so forth. Well, during my senior year, I lived at home and commuted to school. I saw her maybe a handful of times during fall semester and maybe two times during spring semester (I was only on campus once a week since I was student teaching). Well, I would always make a lot effort to get together with her and try to check in with her. Our friendship became pretty one-sided...I understand that we couldn't get together often because the times I was on campus weren't always convenient for her, but she never reaches out to me to see how I'm doing or anything like that. I began to feel like maybe our friendship isn't really a priority for her, or maybe she has just forgotten about me. I've had talks with her about it and it didn't really change anything. We're not on bad terms or anything like that, but I don't feel as close to her and now I'm unsure about whether I want her as my bridesmaid. Now that both of us have graduated, I don't know if our friendship will get stronger and I don't know if I want someone standing next to me that doesn't really put any effort into our friendship. I would of course still invite her to the wedding, but is it okay to go back on what I said before about her being a bridesmaid? I'm not really sure how to handle the situation. I know it would be rude to just confront her out of the blue about it...there's probably no easy way to do it.