Because I have one!
My daughter took 5 of her bridesmaids to select dresses today. The goal was to find any short black dress -- 4 out of 5 girls found something within 1/2 an hour. The fifth girl found nothing to her liking and asked if she could look around at the mall at stores at large. This obviously took my daughter aback a bit. She discussed it a bit with the other girls (on the side) to vent frustration. A compromise was reached that they would go on Tuesday, and if nothing could be found, BM#5 would make a selection from the original shop, as planned.
Then, upon discussing shoes, BM#5 declared that she would not wear any leather or other animal product. Now, this is the ONE area my daughter has stated from the start that she would like all the girls to wear identical pink shoes. The girls all discussed the problems - together - and civily - and again came up with a compromise. BM#5 would research vegetarian friendly pink shoes and come up with some prices and selections. If the prices and/or selections are not what the other girls can afford, then BM#5 (and this was her idea) will "bite the bullet", purchase non-vegetarian friendly shoes, wear them solely for the church and pictures....and then pass them on to her sister.
In my mind, this is what a bridal party is all about----friends who care more about each other.....and their relationships.....and the bigger picture.....than any attire. It isn't even about making the bride happy......it's about consideration and respect for everyone concerned!