People don't think
FI and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, and our venue/plates pp are pretty pricey. We get an RSVP yesterday from his cousin ordering A $100 plate of filet mignon for their 12 year old. I'm not happy about it, and I don't know these people but have to pay $400 for their dinner at our wedding?
Then my MOH calls me this am and informs me she is bringing FIVE kids to the reception. Really?! She invited everyone, her step kids, her cousin, I mean come on. She is also the one to say "I am your gift to you" so I am well aware that her family will not bring a present to the wedding.
Am I crazy? Have you had any experiences with this and how are you handling it? I don't think FI wants to say anything to his cousin, and my only hope with MOH is that she has her kids picked up after dinner so they aren't under everyone's feet all night.
Re: People don't think
Secondly, my venue offers reduced rates for people under 21 (so rather than $110pp it's $52.95). See if your venue offers something like that -- it should, if alcohol is include in the price per head. And if it's not, then the filet must be made of gold because that is a LOT of money to spend on steak!
Is there a kids meal offered through the venue that you can give to the 12 year old? No way in HELL I'd be paying $100 for filet for anyone not old enough to drive - and you can be damn sure his parents don't let him order that when he goes out for dinner with THEM. He can eat chicken fingers & friends, tyvm.
Were the MOH's kids invited? Can you just tell her you don't have enough room for them? We're having kids, but if we weren't, I would have made no bones about telling people to keep their little darlings at home and if that upsets you, then, well, you'll be missed.
[QUOTE]First and foremost, were these kids invited? If they weren't invited then you have every right to say that they can't come. Secondly, my venue offers reduced rates for people under 21 (so rather than $110pp it's $52.95). See if your venue offers something like that -- it should, if alcohol is include in the price per head. And if it's not, then the filet must be made of gold because that is a LOT of money to spend on steak!
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I completely agree with this post - find out about the reduced rated plate and if they weren't invited then they should not be coming. Period.
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As for the filet mignon, I would call and say, "I'm sorry for the misunderstanding, but all children under 12 will be getting a children's plate, with chicken tenders, French fries, etc." If you don't know about your caterer's children's plates, call and ask - I am sure they have them.
However, if you did not invite children to this wedding, there should be no exceptions. Remember this is YOUR day!