How do I invite people to my bridal shower but not invite them to my wedding? I will have a small, family only wedding (maximum of 30 people) this year. I might have a big reception next year when I can afford it for 130 people. But I want a bridal shower this year and I want to invite my friends and friends of my fiancé. But I can’t promise my bridal shower guests that there will be for a reception to follow in 2011. If I have a bridal shower this year, I will make it clear to everyone that I do not want any gifts. What should I do?