Ok so I have always wanted a small wedding but my fiance and I have huge families. We have been pressured to invite every freaking person we have even the slightest bit of blood in common (my parents are paying for the wedding so we have to respect their wishes). Needless to say we are having a large wedding ~200.
On top of that I have 4 sisters, 5 nieces, 1 sister in law, and my very best friend / female soul mate as well as three close female friends. If I ask everyone that would mean 2 maids of honor, 7 bridesmaid, 2 junior bridesmaids and 3 flowergirls. (It would be chaos!)
Right away I knew I wanted my very best friend (M) and one of my sisters (Je) to be my co-maids of honor. I couldn't do it without them right by my side.
Now for the sticky part.
My fiance HATES one of my sisters (Ka) and has basically forbidden me from having her in the wedding party. What the heck do I do?
My sister (Jes) assumes she has already been chosen and keeps telling me how gorgeous she would look in the colors.
Also my sister-in-law (R) (who is 42) has said she just wants to be a guest at the wedding unless i realllyyy want her to be in the bridal party.
My oldest sister (Ke) hates my best friend (M) and isn't the biggest fan of my fiance. She told me it was up to me whether I have her in the wedding. (at Jes's wedding she said she didn't really want to be in it so Jes didn't ask her and Ke was PISSED)
My parents expect my nieces to all be in the wedding so that is already decided for me.
Also with my three friends I would have to pick all or none. Two have already expressed to me that they are waiting for me to ask them.
Sooo what am I to do?! Just say screw it and have them all and deal with the chaos as it comes? I really wanted a small wedding.... at least in some way. With a bigger wedding party brings more of an expense, not that I am paying but I don't want to bankrupt my parents! What I am kind of thinking of doing is just having my two maids of honor and all of my nieces. That would take care of some of my problem i guess. I just don't want to hurt anyone.