My fiancee and I would like to have a big engagement party to celebrate with everyone since we're having a relatively small wedding. All of the info on etiquette I've read says that we shouldn't invite anyone to the engagement party who isn't invited to the wedding. I can see that, but I feel like if we worded it that way then guests would understand. The party, an informal BBQ, would be a little more than a year before the wedding and I don't feel the people we aren't as close with will be waiting a year to see when their invitations to the wedding arrive. What do you think?