African American Weddings

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Yall this house crap is really getting on my nerves...FI was supposed to move out of his house May 16 and construction was supposed to start June 20. Well now they just called him and told him that he won't move out until July or August and that we won't be in the house until November...this TOTALLY messed up our financial plans to pay for the wedding month to month starting in September since I was going to be out of my apartment and have less bills....Now bae says that we have to push the wedding back AGAIN....for the 3RD FCUKING TIME....DUE TO THIS DAMN HOUSE....I give up literally. I am just going to tell him that we can have a considerably small ceremony and reception and call it a day...now we can't even have the 10k wedding we want to have. I am literally outdone and losing hope and giving up......CryCry


My responses to all that posted:

M1ssJ

Thanks I do see the blessing that we will basically have a new house once they remediate it. It is just that since we had begun planning a wedding something with his house always pushed us back (and there were so many Thank God's that were said then) and now both of us are just frustrated because we really felt like our marriage was going to really happen this time.

Carla1019

Thanks! I am sure you were frustrated with your house closing date being moved 8 times....wow. I really did feel defeated yesterday...I just don't know what else to offer him because we are bumping heads

Island07b2b

I am standing in prayer sis! I know that eventually all will work out for us...

Footballwiffe77

Thanks so much...I appreciate it

Thanks everyone.....I am really just tired of this house. I know he is more tired of it than me because he is there most of the time with all his electrical stiuff broken...no a/c, alarm goes off and its DISCONNECTED, etc. I talked to him last night when he got off work and we couldnt come to an agreement on ANYTHING....I offered to have a smaller reception and not have a grandiose wedding...he said no. I said well what about a destination wedding...no. I damn near offered everything I could think of and he was against it...WHY you wonder?? Well this will be his 2nd marriage my first. He and his ex-wife went to the JP got married and had a small reception afterwards. He said that he didnt want that for me because he feels that I should have the wedding I want.... Ya''ll my patience with the aggin (iread it backwards..I'm tryin gto stop using that word)  was already damn near non-existent...I told him that I didnt know what else to offer. I won't hate him if I can't have 250 people at a wedding and reception...in the end I just want us to be MARRIED....

I told him let's scale it down to 100 people 75 if we could swing it. I told him I thank him for wanting what he wants for me but I know how to be logical and we can compromise and come up with something that both of us will be happy with.

To no avail we came up with NOTHING. So I just prayed about it and I have let it go.....I told him I was stepping back from wedding planning until we could come to a head and agree on something. So to all getting married soon CONGRATS!! I hope that your days are blessed with joy and happiness!! I am going to sign off for a while until I know what is going on!!

Love you ladies much and (in my Martin voice) SEE YA WHEN I SEE YA PEACCCCCCCCCCCCCE!

Casey.....

MissusD1116

Undecided I don't know...I may pop in every now and then to see how everyone is doing but I won't have anything to post in my regard...Maybe I am just having a sucky ass pity party right now lol. I don't mind you giving me a praise breakdown at all!! I loved it!

Love ya right back!

Re: Update

  • Awww Casey I'm so sorry you are dealing with this whole house thing. It sucks its hendering you and your bae to get married . I hope thinga change for you soon and you guys can get back on track of the planning ! Please check in time to time and let us know how your doing and how things are going with you guys ! I'm praying for u girl !
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  • Case I'm sorry to hear that the plans have been delayed but on the other hand, glad that it's for a really good reason.   Yes, postponing sucks a big ole orange orangutan ass, girl, I know trust, BUT, he who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, hellurrrr church??  He is providing and when he's got that off his mind, the wedding will come.
    Here's what else, reconsider leaving the board, i know it's all wedding this and wedding that but i'm sure we've got other stuff to talk about and the humor might help you get through a frustrating time.   I mean where else could I have found out where to get a decent Chinese replica?  lol.

  • Thanks love! Something will give...I just talked to bae and he asked me if I would be upset about pushing it back to Labor Day weekend in 2013....I told him that shouldn't be too bad...it is what it is and God knows all that is best for us....Thanks for the prayers!

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_update-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:5b252a19-32b6-4104-beeb-603209a88c2dPost:52f876d8-0021-4c5c-8ae4-b5cdc8a28047">Re:Update</a>:
    [QUOTE]Awww Casey I'm so sorry you are dealing with this whole house thing. It sucks its hendering you and your bae to get married . I hope thinga change for you soon and you guys can get back on track of the planning ! Please check in time to time and let us know how your doing and how things are going with you guys ! I'm praying for u girl !
    Posted by msbdumas[/QUOTE]
  • Thanks....I agree that this sucks butt majorly even if it is dirty zoo monkey butt lol...I understand he is providing a house but because of his frustration when I try to talk to him about going forward he takes it all out on me and I end up in a damn pissy mood ready to wring his neck. Yeah the wedding will come.....I pray....I know there are other things to talk about literally....but everyone is going to be talking about their weddings (a tinge of envy is coming over me lol) I need all the humor I can get right now because all he and I are doing is arguing!! What did you decide about a Chinese dress? Did you look at Jasmine's you can send them the picture of the dress you like and they can give you a quote!

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_update-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:5b252a19-32b6-4104-beeb-603209a88c2dPost:2de0ab32-2999-4764-84ec-03aa5cf64269">Re: Update</a>:
    [QUOTE]Case I'm sorry to hear that the plans have been delayed but on the other hand, glad that it's for a really good reason.   Yes, postponing sucks a big ole orange orangutan ass, girl, I know trust, BUT, he who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, hellurrrr church??  He is providing and when he's got that off his mind, the wedding will come. Here's what else, reconsider leaving the board, i know it's all wedding this and wedding that but i'm sure we've got other stuff to talk about and the humor might help you get through a frustrating time.   I mean where else could I have found out where to get a decent Chinese replica?  lol.
    Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]
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