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MOH is mad at me

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So Sunday was her 1 year anniversary. I'll be honest I forgot, totally 100% forgot. But now she's pissy with me and I feel horrible. I have apologized a zillion times. I am not the friend who forgets things like that!! I feel sick to my stomach that now the week of (4 days out) she is mad, furious!!

I don't know what to do.
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  • ksparks10ksparks10 member
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    Your MOH is mad at you because you forgot HER anniversary??
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  • AllAboutTheBenjaminAllAboutTheBenjamin member
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    Of all the friends of mine who've gotten married the past few years, I don't think I could tell you when ANY of their anniversaries are.  And I was a bridesmaid in one of them.

    I guess I'm a shitty friend too.
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  • shaydeniseshaydenise
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    wtf, that is ridiculous.  Anniversaries, IMO, are between you and your husband and it's personal.  It's not a birthday.  Why in the world does she care that you didn't remember it?
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    Unless she is a sister-wife, I think you are off the hook.
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  • Belle2BeBelle2Be member
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    Is that the only reason she could be mad at you??? I don't even know my OWN date-iversary...
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Unless you had promised to do something for her and bailed, I don't understand why she's mad. It's her anniversary, not yours. You have no obligation to remember it.
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  • marissa_clairemarissa_claire member
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    Yeah I would never expect my friends to remember my anniversary.  She's being ridiculous.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    She's being completely ridiculous.  The world does not revolve around her.  How many of your friends' anniversaries can you list off?  I have my own and my parents' memorized.  That's it.
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  • anna.oskaranna.oskar member
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    I see an anniversary as a private holiday.  It actually weirds me out that some people pay attention to other people's dates. Not sure why.
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  • TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_moh-mad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9c3bb13c-027b-485d-810a-fe3af98c5864Post:62cac636-44c9-4d1c-9f43-ed2bfb0e6153">Re: MOH is mad at me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Unless she is a sister-wife, I think you are off the hook.
    Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

    Ha!!

    She's over-reacting.  I barely remember the date of my friend's wedding who just got married in July!  And it's rare when I've said happy anniversary to a friend.  I agree that it's not like a birthday.
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  • lilianne22lilianne22 member
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    Yeah...she's overreacting.  Other than my mom, I don't normally contact other people on their wedding anniversary.   You already apologized a "zillion times" so the ball is in her court.  She needs to get over it.

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    The only people I know who celebrated others' anniversaries were Jehovah's Witnesses. But that was like Christmas to them, where everyone got presents, because it was the only reoccurring date that they could celebrate.

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  • mocha beansmocha beans member
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    That's a tad pretentious of her.  She didn't somehow have a serious brain fart and mistake you for her husband?  I only know one friends' anniversary, and that's only because it was on Memorial weekend, so I can look it up fairly easily.  Tell her to get over herself.
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    [QUOTE]The only people I know who celebrated others' anniversaries were Jehovah's Witnesses. But that was like Christmas to them, where everyone got presents, because it was the only reoccurring date that they could celebrate.
    Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]
    I was raised as a JW, and I definitely never celebrated anyone's anniversary, other than my parents'.
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    That was what was celebrated. The parents'.
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  • missejaynemissejayne member
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    The sister wife comment made me laugh so hard I snorted!


    I guess its because she remembers so many important dates for me, that she expects the same, and 9 times outta 10 I deliver!
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    Yeah, but we never got presents.  We made my parents dinner for their anniversary every now and then, but it wasn't as big of a deal to us as your post makes it seem.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    [QUOTE]The sister wife comment made me laugh so hard I snorted! I guess its because she remembers so many important dates for me, that she expects the same, and 9 times outta 10 I deliver!
    Posted by missejayne[/QUOTE]


    She'll get over it.  Unless she's completely self-obsessed, in which case, that is unfortunate.

    Keeping up with a ton of people's important dates could be a tad bit exhausting.  I mean my gosh you have your own life - she has to understand that.
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    [QUOTE]The sister wife comment made me laugh so hard I snorted! I guess its because she remembers so many important dates for me, that she expects the same, and <strong>9 times outta 10 I deliver!</strong>
    Posted by missejayne[/QUOTE]

    Then she's being extra obnoxious. 
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    Well, it was a friend of mine growing up, and they always made a big to-do about it. I guess different families celebrate different ways, as with all other celebrations.
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  • BubbalubBubbalub member
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    That's ridiculous. I don't even know my parents' anniversary date, just the year they were married. Your friend needs to get over it.
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    [QUOTE]The sister wife comment made me laugh so hard I snorted! I guess its because she remembers so many important dates for me, that she expects the same, and 9 times outta 10 I deliver!
    Posted by missejayne[/QUOTE]

    Does she not consider the fact that you're what, 4 days out from your wedding, and just might be a bit preoccupied? You have nothing to apologize for.
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    [QUOTE]Well, it was a friend of mine growing up, and they always made a big to-do about it. I guess different families celebrate different ways, as with all other celebrations.
    Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]
    Exactly. 

    Sorry if I seem a bit defensive, but  I strongly dislike blanket statements about any religion, but particularly JWs because they're so misunderstood.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    No, I totally understand. I didn't mean to make a blanket statement. I was always kind of jealous that she got a shitload of presents in like, October.
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    Haha!  I know what you mean.  Being raised a JW I was jealous every Christmas when all my friends were getting presents.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    [QUOTE]The only people I know who celebrated others' anniversaries were Jehovah's Witnesses. But that was like Christmas to them, where everyone got presents, because it was the only reoccurring date that they could celebrate.
    Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

    I did not know this.  I know a friend who had several relatives decline her wedding because they are JW.  I guess I assumed it would be the same for anniversaries.  Guess, I shouldn't assume..

    EDIT: Nevermind I should have read all the posts first
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOH is mad at me : I did not know this.  I know a friend who had several relatives decline her wedding because they are JW.  I guess I assumed it would be the same for anniversaries.  Guess, I shouldn't assume.. EDIT: Nevermind I should have read all the posts first
    Posted by shaydenise[/QUOTE]
    Your friends relative are all jackasses.  I'm obviously no longer a JW, but I've maintained contact with a good number of those I was friends with when I was attending meetings.  They attended my wedding (one did my hair and makeup, and another took my pictures as well).  They never would have declined because I have different beliefs than them.
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • leah2bleah2b member
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    Personally I think that's pretty obnoxious of her and I don't think you should apologize a million times.   She needs to get over herself.  I just don't understand why people create stress and strife where it is not neccessary.
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  • shaydeniseshaydenise
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    Yeah they said it was a "celebration they could not partake in due to their religion."

    I'm glad to know it was just them (though I did have that suspicion at the time)!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOH is mad at me : Exactly.  Sorry if I seem a bit defensive, but  I strongly dislike blanket statements about any religion, but particularly JWs because they're so misunderstood.
    Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

    My H was raised JW! He has been a heathen for many years now, but he was raised in a JW family and has four sibs and 2 practice and the others do not. he is up for all celebrations, but does not much care for gifts. he said he was just not raised with much of that and it still feels odd to him.
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