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  • Re: Invitation/Wedding Shower Etiquette

    Notification Requirements ✈ Applies to all Legal Weddings in Ireland

    Couples must notify the Registry Office of their intent to marry and this applies to all ceremonies, be they civil, religious or spiritual. Both parties to the marriage need to be over the age of 18 to be legally married in Ireland. Foreign National couples must give at a minimum 3 months notice in writing of their intent to marry, whether they are having a civil, religious or spiritual ceremony. They are welcome to contact one of the Civil Registration Service Offices by phone to initiate the process as meeting in person 3 months before the wedding might not be feasible. It is highly advised that more time is given to this process.

    The Registrar will usually grant foreign nationals permission to give notice of their intention to marry by post but couples will need to have made contact with the priest / parish or the registered solemniser in the case of a civil or spiritualist ceremony and organised their wedding ceremony date in order to complete their notification of intent to marry.

    Official Documentation such as birth and divorce decrees need to bear an Apostille Stamp or equivalent and official translations if not published in English and are as follows;

    1 ✈ Valid Passport or national ID card that is accepted as a travel document.
    2 ✈ Birth Certificates for both parties of the marriage
    3 ✈ Original final divorce decree, decree of nullity accompanied by a court letter stating that no appeal has been lodged, civil partnership dissolutions or spouse’s death certificate accompanied by the previous marriage certificate if appropriate
    4 ✈ Information on whether it will be a civil, secular or religious ceremony
    5 ✈ The intended date and location of the marriage
    6 ✈ Details of the proposed solemniser of the marriage
    7 ✈ The names and dates of birth of the two proposed witnesses
    8 ✈ Appropriate Fee

    If, for some reason you are in a position to make the notification in person, then you can make your declaration of no impediment on the same day. If not, you will need to arrange to meet with the Registrar at least 5 days before the wedding in order to do so.The Registrar will issue an acknowlegement to both of you and the proposed solemniser of the marriage confirming the date of receipt of notification.If all the information required has been supplied and everything is in order, ie there is no impediment to the marriage, the Registrar will issue you with a Marriage Registration Form (MRF)

    The MRF is a document that is basically the civil authorization for the marriage to proceed. All couples must obtain the MRF in order to be legally married, regardless of the nature of their wedding ceremony. The MRF must be presented to the solemniser in advance of the wedding ceremony so that they too can check that the details are correct. The solemniser must ensure that this form is signed after the ceremony (signing of the register) by him/herself, the couple and their two witnesses

  • Re: Ceremony , vows, I do's, etc

    Sounds good.  Just remember that your wedding ceremony is not about expressing your love for each other.  It is about making promises to each other that you intend to follow throughout your marriage. 
  • Re: Invitation/Wedding Shower Etiquette

    Have you researched the legal requirements to get married in Ireland?  They are not easy ones, but it is possible.  Be sure you have your arrangements made before you send out any invitations.  Ireland has a THREE MONTH WAITING PERIOD!
  • Re: Cancel and elope? Help!

    CMGragain said:
    Yeah it’s ridiculous and rude to cancel. Let your mom pay! Enjoy it! Enjoy that your friends and family all get to enjoy the day as guests instead of working!
    No, it isn't rude to cancel a wedding, as long as you give enough notice.
    Invitations have been sent. Its in 2 months. Absent a good reason I think that’s too late to cancel. 
    You are talking about standard etiquette.  Two months is plenty of time to cancel.  Two days is not.
    It is possible that the OP can find a venue that will work for the same date and time she had planned, but it isn't likely.  I think this would be the first thing I would check out.  I planned my own wedding in 2 months time.  It can be done.
    Assuming that it isn't possible to find a venue for the same date and time, the other choice is to cancel plans and re-plan the wedding for the closest date possible.
    I came very close to cancelling my own wedding plans and eloping.  I decided to stick it out, but the memories are not good ones.  I don't regret my decision, but it was very stressful.
    When I was working as a church organist, I had been hired by a couple who decided not to get married the day before their ceremony.  The minister was in complete agreement with their decision.  Was it rude?  No.  Should they have gone through with the marriage to please guests?  No.  Was it inconvenient for guests?  Yes, but they understood, and they were supportive of the couple's decision.  Imagine the phone calls!
    Saying that it is rude to cancel a wedding is not correct.  Cancelling a wedding without informing your guests - now THAT is rude!
  • Re: Cancel and elope? Help!

    Just because your Mom will be hosting does not mean that it has to be a formal wedding.  My sister rented a pavilion in a city park for her wedding.  They had a pig roast (professionally done) with potato salad, baked beans, and coleslaw, and beer in cans.  It was very laid back.
    Since Mom will be paying, she does have some input on your plans.  Talk to her and see if you can have a meeting of minds.  Oh, and THANK HER!!!!