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"Use your words" is an awful way to put it. I totally understand where she's coming from. I've been on both ends of the spectrum. Its really about putting you first and not thinking about the other person's feelings. I feel like we're conditioned to make others happy before we do it for ourselves. You might need to start over. Maybe take a pause from dating. It might be nice to take a breather. I used to be the person that let things get too out of my comfort zone-- whether it was to make a person happy or for fear of retaliation of some sort. Now, I'm the person who puts a hand up between myself and the person making me uncomfortable. I'm currently of the mindset that if they don't get the picture when I nicely say back off, then they're about to get full blown bitch. I'm at a point where I feel confident enough with my responses where I feel safe enough with my responses to do that. I've actually shooed men away from me before. I think its easy to do this in public places, it'll definitely feel harder in private, but this is about you and only you.
Funnily enough, my mom suggested not sending invites to anyone out of the country (except the 3 people I'm willing to pay extra for) and invitation until like two months before the wedding. My dad, on the other hand, has stopped making invitation comments. He just wants good food/music at this point. So all is well!