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   Reply by CMGragain · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   This! "Any info has come via my brother. Dress, shoes, hair, makeup. I received an invitation to the shower, in the mail. I only knew the bridesmaids were doing a weekend away because I asked my brother. " You don't really think her brother is the one involved in deciding this, do you? He is not directly involved. There…

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   Reply by Tyvm · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   What @downtondiva said, exactly, on the baby-front. However, on the not being invited to WP events, your FSIL is actually acting fine assuming you're not a bridesmaid, but are actually a groomswoman, as @AtomicBlonde has stated. My FI and I usually follow "blood handles blood" rule, or whatever, so it's not exactly unusual…

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   Reply by drglitter · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   I agree that your brother's being a dick and I'd just stay home with my husband and kids, even if it meant eating the cost of a plane ticket. But, if I felt obligated to attend, which it sounds like you do, I'd peace out about 5 seconds after the ceremony and skip the reception entirely. Your duties as a "bridesmaid" end…

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   Reply by tigerlily6 · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   OP, are your parents around and aware of any of this? I know you and your brother are full grown adults and it's really between you two (or three, as FSIL sounds like she should be involved as your are her bridesmaid, presumably). But as an older sister myself, I think if one of my brothers ever treated me this way when I…

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   Reply by bleve0821 · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   Honestly, if this were my younger brother, I wouldn't even hesitate to tell him where to stick it... and then I'd call his FW and tell her to shove it, too. If you're a BRIDESmaid, you should be included in all the communications the bride has with her other maids, including all dress demands requests and pre-wedding…

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   Reply by tigerlily6 · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   He apparently shouldn't be allowed at his own wedding, because it sounds like he's being the biggest baby of all. I know it sucks that you have this plane ticket and you can't refund it. But the way I see it is that even if you go, you're can basically say goodbye to that money (a) for "nothing", but get to stay home with…

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   Reply by Knottie1462257109 · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond. It is greatly appreciated! I feel better knowing that I'm not just crazy for thinking he is being really inconsiderate. The wedding is only about 2 weeks away so I'll just suck it up and let it all go. My tickets are booked and the dress purchased. I think not going…

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   Discussion by Knottie1462257109 · May 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party

   Last summer I excitedly accepted the honor of being a bridesmaid in my brothers upcoming wedding. We have always been really close and I couldn't wait to celebrate this big event with him. But, I find myself feeling more and more distant as the event is almost here. Originally myself, husband and two oldest kids were asked…