confessions.

mandysmear · April 2012

so, i was going through my wedding box with my sister this weekend. since she's getting married next y ear.

i came across my invites...

i mr. and mrs. john smith'd my mother in law on my invites.

OH MY GOD. i guess i didn't adopt my feminist views til after i got my invites? i know that with my envelope labels i very much mr. and mrs. john and jane smith'd people. but i got my invites about 8 months prior. and i did the labels like 3 months prior to the wedding.

i am kind of horrified by it.

lyndausvi · April 2012

I'm kind-of happy DH is going to Korea on Thursday. I can't wait to have the bed to mysell. Well it's will really be me, Chef D and the dog I'm watching (if she wants to sleep up there).

aragx6 · April 2012

FI has some family in the Phillipines and we didn't include their SOs names on the save the dates. His grandma says if we wrote them on there it might keep them from being able to get visitor visas (I guess it's really tricky?) but I still felt terrible anyway ...

ceh789 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-50?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:89c2a8df-fdb3-43c6-8b7c-b3a982c79654Post:306b1285-af5c-4160-a3bb-738f12176cd1">Re: confessions.</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm kind-of happy DH is going to Korea on Thursday. I can't wait to have the bed to mysell. Well it's will really be me, Chef D and the dog I'm watching (if she wants to sleep up there).
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>FI went out of town yesterday and last night I slept smack in the middle of the bed and loved it. I let 'my' dog sleep with me, too and made 'his' dog stay on the floor.</div>

Loopyseven · April 2012

Confession - I kinda think I'm gonna like this working part time business. I think I'll be sad when the position grows into more like full time (as they expect it will).

ceh789 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]FI has some family in the Phillipines and we didn't include their SOs names on the save the dates. <strong>His grandma says if we wrote them on there it might keep them from being able to get visitor visas (I guess it's really tricky?)</strong> but I still felt terrible anyway ...
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>How come? Wouldn't NOT having their name on the STD make it harder to get a visitor visa? That seems backward.</div>

LDYGTR13 · April 2012

I can't stop eating pretzels. If I had peanut butter to dip them in, I'd be in serious trouble.

ski2play · April 2012

Lynda I get that. FI works 3-11 this week and I must admit I enjoy, the time alone, I can stretch out in the bed, eat icecream for dinner, and work out when I want, (or don't want!)

mandysmear · April 2012

my husband and i have been working the same schedule since january.
it's been great.
but i kind of wish he worked 2 or 3 shifts a week where he is on nights again.

i know i complained. but man, i guess i was so used to my freedom. sundays aren't as special as they used to be.

[Deleted User] · April 2012

I agree with all of you. FI used to be 10-7 and now he's 9-6 (I'm9-5). While most nights I enjoy having him home with me so soon, I am SO behind on Grey's Anatomy because he refuses to watch and, now, by the time I finish with dinner, feeding the cat, etc., he's home before I can watch! I love the time together but...I miss my bad girly TV shows!

lyndausvi · April 2012

Mandy - it's been great yet at the same time a real big adjustment not to have DH working 6-7 days a week 10-12 shifts. Now I have to ask input from him when in comes to meals.. I liked the days where I could just eat what and when I wanted without his input. Now he really knows how bad of a cook I am. I could hid it from him because he was never here.

jennamarie10 · April 2012

My confession is that while I was in Vegas with my girlfriends I was wishing my FI was with, bu then the second I got home I wanted nothing to do with him. I needed a good 24 hours of JUST. ME. before I could tolerate him.

mica178 · April 2012

I sort of miss when H would work nights too. Having him around all the time is weird.

lyndausvi · April 2012

Oh and another one.

I'm not really excited about going to DH's work outing. It's a AAA baseball. Baseball games are boring to me, unless I'm actually playing in the game.

RupertPenny · April 2012

I'm having a very difficult time being motivated to do anything at work now that I know I'm leaving. This is really the wrong attitude for me to have since I have to get everything in order before I go.

mandysmear · April 2012

yeah, i mean i don't want to go back to never seeing him. but i feel like i am seeing him too much.

however, i recognize that it IS good for us, because it's not a big deal to make a plan without him.

before i would NEVER make sunday plans. like it had to be really important in order for me to miss a sunday with him.

now it's like "oh sure i can have lunch on sunday!" "yeah! let's go shopping." etc.

ArynBaker · April 2012

I hate my internship but hope they offer me a job anyway.

I've also been at the library for nearly 2 hours and just now cracked open a book. Although it took me 30 minutes to find said book so really, I just wasted an hour and a half.

lyndausvi · April 2012

So the houseguest finally called. They should arrive after midnight.

DH doesn't stay up that late.

Send vibes that they decide it's a better idea to just stay in a hotel.

Natrasha · April 2012

I confess to fantasizing lately about what it would be like if H and I can't work through our troubles. I think about moving out and telling people what happened. In my mind I get to be a triumphant independent woman. In reality though, I know I would be miserable and inconsolable. I hope I'm thinking about it just to show myself that I could do it if it's what I really wanted, and that I'm still with him because I want to be and I love him, not just because I'm too scared of the alternative.

I also confess that I'm covertly playing Plants vs Zombies at my desk on my iPod while "working."

RailWayWife · April 2012

I have been searching "Fun things to see and do in Vegas" rather than working for the past hour. Opppsss

aragx6 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: confessions. : How come? Wouldn't NOT having their name on the STD make it harder to get a visitor visa? That seems backward.
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]

Oops didn't mean to P&R. Essentially what she said, and it appears to be pretty well documented on immigration's web site, if I write both names Immigration will think they have no reason to return home -- you have to be able to show that you have a house, a job and family waiting for you in the Phillipines or they assume you'll come to the U.S. and stay forever. If I put the SOs names on the save the date, the family wouldn't be able to get the visitor visas.

Edit: My guess is that they won't be able to get the visas at all, which is a shame. They've gotten extremely tight about it. It took nearly 10 years to get FI's uncle's wife here and his mom (Fi's grandma) has dual citizenship.

ceh789 · April 2012

So is the expectation that the SO won't come? How will the SO get their visa without an invitation/STD? Assuming, of course, that they can get one at all.

chelseamb11 · April 2012

I confess I am not even prepared for the option of not having a teaching job as of this fall. There's a really large chance the school is going to close. I'm just overly "confident" that I'll either get another job or the school will stay open.

I'm in hardcore denial right now.

MyUserName1 · April 2012

The Phillipines is very tight about US immigration, but that is a very different animal than visitor visas. Hopefully they'll be able to come.

I confess that i'm having my first bridezilla day. I just had a mini meltdown when something came in in the wrong color and it's too late to replace it. Luckily i had that meltdown all alone so no one was around to witness it.

CFM102012 · April 2012

I confess to being an ignorant American. People have to get special visas just to visit for a few days?

aragx6 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]So is the expectation that the SO won't come? How will the SO get their visa without an invitation/STD? Assuming, of course, that they can get one at all.
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]

Essentially, and this is really the confession, the SO's aren't invited. We went back and forth on this for a while, but FI finally just told me to listen to his family and to roll with it. I had put up a lot of other fights already and this one didn't seem entirely worth it because I was also assured that the SO's a) wouldn't expect an invitation and b) would never be able to afford to come. Ugh, getting upset about this one again actually ...

Megbo2012 · April 2012

I confess that I have a test and presentation (completed at least) tomorrow and I am watching Once Upon a Time and playing Tiny Monsters on my iPad, AND iPhone.

MyUserName1 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]I confess to being an ignorant American. People have to get special visas just to visit for a few days?
Posted by CFM102012[/QUOTE]

<div>Depends on what country they are from. Some countries participate in a visa exchange program, so Americans can enter their country and they can enter the US for a visit without a visa. Most of Europe, Canada, etc. </div><div>
</div><div>Many countries do not, and you have to get a visa to travel into the US. You get a different visa depending on the purpose of your travel. Some countries are very particular and you have to jump through hoops to prove that you have ties to your home country and aren't trying to remain illegally. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: REMAIN, not enter.</div>

aleighk1 · April 2012

I'm tired of my new SN already. My confession is I used serving sets that I got from my bridal shower already. Yep 1 month before the wedding.

ceh789 · April 2012

Sorry! I wasn't trying to call you out - was just curious. I wouldn't have picked that battle either.

Megbo2012 · April 2012

Aleigh I've used the ice cream maker my mom got us (ahem, me) four times already.

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