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lesalyric · July 2010

I am flaming everyone with bad attitudes! Pretty, pretty princess attitude both on-board and in RL, co-worker attitude, family attitude, etc. I am over it.

NMac2010 · July 2010

I will never understand why girls who are not having destination weddings, send out invitations earlier than 6 weeks. It's not necessary, and it's quite annoying.

I can't stand getting an invite to something 2+ months in advance. I look at it, think "Oh, that's 2 months away", put it in a pile and more than likely won't pick it back up again. It will get lost in our stash of junk.

I do the same thing with STD's that are more than 6 months out. What is the point? I'm not going to put something on my calendar that is more than 6 months away. I'm sorry, no offense, but I may have something more important going on 6 months down the road than your wedding that I would like to leave myself open for.

I've seen people who have had RSVP deadlines earlier than mine, with wedding dates weeks after mine. I just will never understand it, with the exception of a DW.

Ok, now that I've sounded like a complete B. I'm done.

Donnaaries · July 2010

NMac, it may not be a destination wedding but they may be anticipating a lot of OOT guests, my guess?

If you're going to have a reception around a meal time, you should serve a meal, period. I'm not understanding this "it's not a matter of what we can afford, it's whether we want to." Do you invite people to your house for a party at 7:00pm and not serve dinner?

NMac2010 · July 2010

That's possible I guess, but we have out of town guests and they didn't even book their hotels/flights until earlier this month. So, I'm just not sure what the rush is. Oh well.

NMac2010 · July 2010

While I'm on the topic, and I'm feeling a little snarky today, I don't like STD's. I think they're a waste of money, and paper, and they take up space on my fridge.

Up until a few years ago, they weren't even popular and we all got along just fine without them, and people still made it to your wedding without "saving the date" 6 months in advance.

cfibelkorn · July 2010

Flame 1. http://www.sophiabush.com/blog/?jid=3

This really makes me mad that a company is supporting this message!!!

Flame 2. I agree with Donna....that is so rude to have a reception around meal time and not feed your guest a FULL meal...not to mention even considering them to pay for it!!

If you cant afford to feed your guest I think you have two options...move it to another time (not around meal time) or put the wedding off until you can afford to feed everyone.........plain and simple

Im sure I will have more as the day goes on...Im in a flamey mood today

bobbileighb · July 2010

Donna I completely agree! and if money is not the issue than it is just plain old rudeness/selfishness.

bsn1752 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-20?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2bfe0f3d-048b-47c8-bff7-de469d6fcfd8Post:6bc4c341-00ba-473c-856d-6f212dde2194">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]NMac, it may not be a destination wedding but they may be anticipating a lot of OOT guests, my guess? If you're going to have a reception around a meal time, you should serve a meal, period. I'm not understanding this "it's not a matter of what we can afford, it's whether we want to." Do you invite people to your house for a party at 7:00pm and not serve dinner?
Posted by Donnaaries[/QUOTE]

This times 1000. So rude.

NMac2010 · July 2010

Yeah I'd be pissed if I went to an evening ish wedding and there was no food. Especially if there was cocktails. Who wants to drink on an empty stomach!

cfibelkorn · July 2010

[QUOTE]Yeah I'd be pissed if I went to an evening ish wedding and there was no food. Especially if there was cocktails. Who wants to drink on an empty stomach!
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

Well Im assuming if someone is too cheap to buy food then they sure as heck are buying their guests alcohol <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

But agreed....drinking on an empty stomach = no good

Terriniski · July 2010

NMac - people may not be booking flights or hotels early, but if you're flying to a wedding it's good to have that trip in the back of your mind for budgeting or general planning purposes. My college friends are scattered across the country, and many of us are getting married around the same time - which means I need to budget for these trips. Within the next year, I'll be spending $1800 on flights to weddings, plus hotels. Good to know well in advance - just another perspective.

bobbileighb · July 2010

I flame my MOH for thinking that just because its my wedding that I have an opinion about EVERYTHING. Sure, maybe some brides do but when you ask me about shoes and I say any shoe you want as long as its dyeable and then we exchange 8 more emails and everytime I say whatever you like best. Fine, ask me if I want your tattoos covered up but when I say i dont mind either way whichever makes her more comfortable dont ask me 5 more times to decide for you. I just have a feeling its going to be this way about everything and is so I will go insane.

I finally emailed her and said I love you for you and chose you to be in my wedding with your taste of shoes and makeup and knowing you have tattoos and love you for all of those things. If I wanted a mini-me in my wedding I wouldnt have asked YOU to be in, so do what you want and I will love it because I love you.

Hopefully that will solve this.

balfour00 · July 2010

NMAC - I have to admit, I'm one of those people you're flaming for sending out invites early. We did it so we can hopefully get responses back early and then know if we can invite additional people. With all the family must invites, we have some friends that I guess you'd say made the B-list but we would love to have there. As we get rsvps back,we'll be able to invite them and not wait until the week before to do it. Not sure if that's a great reason, but that's why we sent out early.

I'd like to flame all the people who walk while texting. I was driving last night, crossing in front of a store. A girl was walking from her car to the store and texting. Not once did she even glance up to look to see if cars were coming. Hellooooo, I'm in a big metal car that could kill you. It's worth an acknowledgement and a break from updating your facebook status letting your friends know you're at Target. Who the hell cares?!

shortgirltx · July 2010

Haha, we sent out STD's 8 months before the wedding and invites 10 weeks before the wedding but then again we got married on a holiday. We did have a lot of OOT guests, not that any of them booked anything ahead of time. STD's aren't a necessity- it's one of those things that you need to do if YOU want it because some people think they are great and others just toss them.

bsn1752 · July 2010

I am also going to be one that sends the invites out a little early... sorry NMac...

shortgirltx · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-20?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2bfe0f3d-048b-47c8-bff7-de469d6fcfd8Post:7661968b-13ea-49f5-9a6f-1884818b766f">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE] I'd like to flame all the people who walk while texting. Posted by balfour00[/QUOTE]

I found myself behind this guy texting while riding his bike yesterday. He was swerving all over the lane for a bit then finally moved over so I could go past him. Idiot.

NMac2010 · July 2010

I understand the OOT guest thing. That doesn't mean I still don't get annoyed when I get an invitation in the mail so far in advance.

Sometimes, I don't think it's just the OOT guest thing. That may be the case, sometimes. But there are those people who just jump the gun.

I think sometimes people just think "the earlier the better" and that's not the case with wedding invitations IMO.

seujoanne · July 2010

I sent mine out this week and my wedding is September 17. Too early? We're in the camp where we invited a lot of out of towners, but really... I just wanted to get it done and off my list!

NMac2010 · July 2010

That's ok Brianna.

Tiffany618 · July 2010

Not that I'm an etiquette junkie or anything, but I believe etiquette states to send invites out 3 months in advance. I didn't do that.. but I'm just sayin that's where it comes from probably.

Also, why would you not send out save the dates more than 6 months before your wedding? It's just a magnet/postcard. Whats the big freakin deal?

I like getting them, personally.

lesalyric · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-20?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2bfe0f3d-048b-47c8-bff7-de469d6fcfd8Post:6bc4c341-00ba-473c-856d-6f212dde2194">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]NMac, it may not be a destination wedding but they may be anticipating a lot of OOT guests, my guess? If you're going to have a reception around a meal time, you should serve a meal, period. I'm not understanding this "it's not a matter of what we can afford, it's whether we want to." Do you invite people to your house for a party at 7:00pm and not serve dinner?
Posted by Donnaaries[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Rude.

Also - if you are considering yourself non-traditional, think of your own things for your wedding; that's the point of being non-traditional! Don't complain that things thought of or written out by more traditional brides are "not helpful."

NMac2010 · July 2010

You know, you can't really go anywhere anymore without seeing people texting while walking.

I'm guilty of it from time to time.

NMac2010 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-20?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2bfe0f3d-048b-47c8-bff7-de469d6fcfd8Post:904ac7db-2835-42a5-9b46-a4c0507c245d">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Not that I'm an etiquette junkie or anything, but I believe etiquette states to send invites out 3 months in advance. I didn't do that.. but I'm just sayin that's where it comes from probably. Also, why would you not send out save the dates more than 6 months before your wedding? It's just a magnet/postcard. Whats the big freakin deal? I like getting them, personally.
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

Nothing I've ever read has said 3 months before, unless you're a DW wedding. Typically, they say max, 8 weeks.

This was on TK:

Q. How far in advance should you send wedding invitations? What is the proper date to ask for the reply card?
A. Ideally, invitations should go out six weeks before the wedding -- that gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules for the day and make travel arrangements if they are out-of-towners. It also lets you make the RSVP date a little earlier -- say three weeks before the wedding date -- so you can get a final head count and start making a seating chart (if you'll have one) before the final-week-before-the-wedding crunch begins. At the very latest, guests should receive wedding invitations six weeks in advance, and you should get responses back two weeks before the big day.
And I just don't see the point in STD's-that's just my opinion. I didn't say everyone had to agree with it. I think they're pointless. I don't need 2 reminders to come to your wedding. One is sufficient.

bsn1752 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-20?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2bfe0f3d-048b-47c8-bff7-de469d6fcfd8Post:904ac7db-2835-42a5-9b46-a4c0507c245d">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I like getting them, personally.
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

I do tooooooo!! :) It's much better than the junk and bills that normally come!

Tiffany618 · July 2010

The Knot checklist said 3 months. Just sayin'

NMac2010 · July 2010

Well then TK contradicts itself. Because I copied that right from a page on TK.

SoonToBeMrsHoz · July 2010

I got soooooooooo many compliments and thank yous from my guests that got my save the dates from Magnet Street.... They all loved them especially since we put our wedding website on there ( which they also loved because it had our bios on there, all the wedding info, registry info, engagement pics, etc.)
That was the best $150 I have spent so far.

NMac2010 · July 2010

TK checklist also says to call your guests who haven't RSVP'ed yet. I think that's very rude, and poor etiquette in my opinion.

My mom and I were just talking about that the other day. If they don't RSVP, I would count them as not coming but tell the venue a larger number just to be safe, in case they come. I don't want to force them to respond one way or the other, maybe they don't feel comfortable saying "nope, don't want to come, but I don't have a good reason why".

I don't think it's polite to ignore the RSVP, as a guest, I wouldn't ever do it. I always RSVP one way or the other, but I don't think it's polite to force someone to give you an answer, either.

We are just going to give the venue a number on the higher end, and if less people show up, we have empty seats. Big deal. We've already paid for food, drinks, everything else. The only reason we need the final count is so the venue can set up the tables.

I promise I'm really not in a bad mood today! I don't know...I guess stuff has been bothering me lately! Hahaha

bsn1752 · July 2010

Yep! Just checked theknot To-Do List and it says "At three months out, send your wedding invitations (be sure to add extra postage for overseas guests)."

I think its all a matter of opinion, and you can't please everyone. I personally don't mind getting invitations early, but some people do... so do what you want for your own wedding!

That's my .02

NMac2010 · July 2010

Brianna, I totally agree you can't please everyone. We never tried to please anyone but FI and I during this process.

But, in honor of FFF, I'm not holding anything back today!

Tiffany618 · July 2010

Natalie - That can work out out fine for buffets and stuff...but if you having a formal wedding with meal service (and entree selection from each guest).. I think you pretty much have to call them or else they won't have a seat or a meal.

The Knot seems to be very traditional, and is not what everyone goes with.

You should do what you feel is right for your wedding, but if others do it differently then that is their prerogative.

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