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Jenna, nobody was rude except you. I think you came on here wanting validation to kick your friend out of your wedding, and that won't happen. This isn't the board I moderate, but I can tell you that I think you need to go and re-read The Knot's rules. Your posts are a personal attack.
I think you've been reading too many bridal magazines. Bridesmaids should be selected because the bride is especially close to them, and wants them beside her as she takes her first steps into a new chapter of her life.
The only thing you should do with those lists of duties that you see on wedding websites and in bridal mags is throw them in the trash. Weddings are very much an industry, which does its best to convince you, from cradle onward, that this is The! Most! Important! Day! Of! Your! Life! and that it's all about you, the bride. They want your friends to believe that they're "bad" friends if they aren't willing to spend, spend, spend on attire, jewelry, shoes, and parties. All those things pump more money back into the industry. Stop and ask yourself a question: did I ask my bridesmaids to be in my wedding because I wouldn't dream of getting married unless they were standing beside me? Or did I pick them because of what I think they'll do for me? Their real responsibility: get the dress and show up sober for the wedding. Your real responsibility: get married. Remember that the wedding industry is finished with you once the wedding is over. They can't make more money off you, so could care less if you offended your friends and trashed your relationships over the One Perfect Day they spent millions in advertising to convince you was your right Ask your fiance if you need help with wedding planning. You’re marrying him, not your bridesmaids.
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