My fiance and I both live in Ohio and are marrying near my hometown in New Jersey. We are not able to invite many of our friends and members of his extended family to our ceremony and reception in New Jersey because the guest list would be astronomical. His family wants us to have a party/reception back in Ohio after we get back from our honeymoon for everyone that couldn't travel, etc.
My question is whether or not to invite ladies that may only be invited to the post-wedding party to the shower. My shower will be in Ohio and I worry that people will feel excluded if they are not invited to the shower, as it will be mostly his family at the shower. I also worry that it would be rude to invite them to the shower.