When will he ask?

sbailey666 · June 2010

So me and my future fiancee were at dinner last night and I was wondering to myself, when is he going to ask the question, like OMG?! I'm already 6 months pregnant, isn't that when you are suppose to ask the questions?

jeanacorina · June 2010

lol

Yes, you should start asking questions when you are six months pregnant. When else are you supposed to ask anything???

musikbx · June 2010

I dunno, I think it's best to wait until about 8 months into the pregnancy.

sbailey666 · June 2010

Well I don't want to upset him... wait. Isn't this page only meant for non-engaged women?

Goldlie11 · June 2010

???

musikbx · June 2010

Yeah, but those old married hags just won't leave.

Goldlie11 · June 2010

I'm pretty sure you're someone's AE

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

bethsmiles · June 2010

I think the 7th month is the best month to ask. Seriously? he will ask when he is ready to ask. This seems like MUD to me.

There are lots of women on this board who are engaged or married but don't worry the board police will come and make sure they only post on boards deemed appropriate for them. *rolls eyes*

paintgirl · June 2010

It was intended for people who are not yet engaged, but you'll see married women on here too.

The responses you are receiving are because some people on this board think you get married FIRST. THEN you get pregnant. We're kind of old-fashioned that way. I'm not sure a hormonal, 6-month pregnant woman should be making major decisions like marriage. And do you really want him to ask you while you're pregnant? Won't you wonder if he only asked because you're pregnant?

paintgirl · June 2010

Girls, I don't want this to be MUD! It's just so perfectly awesome on its own. Though it would have been better at about 10 AM on a workday.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Gaaaahahhahahha.... Now THAT is funny.

...this was a joke, right?....

jeanacorina · June 2010

I am assuming it's a joke. I really am. I don't think I could handle it otherwise. I mean.... so many questions. So much to say.

But, what do I know? I'm a bitter old married hag who never left the NEY board.

musikbx · June 2010

Not to thread hijack, but does anyone remember having these as a child?

catemeg · June 2010

Totally remember having those!! I was just talkin about them the other day - basically comparing myself to one, since my hair was standing on end and I'm short.

This is ridiculous... MUD! Gotta be!

sbailey666 · June 2010

you guys are so mean!! All I wanted to know is if you are 6 months is it unlikely that he will ever ask you! I don't want to have a kid that is born out of wedlock, my parents won't forgive me! How dare you make fun of my predicament. My girlfriends and I were just talking yesterday and they said if he hasn't asked you after 6 months then he never will....

bethsmiles · June 2010

Haha...I loved those troll dolls when I was little! Instead of having a doll house I had a tree house thing for my trolls. I was a strange child!

musikbx · June 2010

Well, a pregnancy is usually the best way to get a guy to propose. My guess is he's just making you wait it out so that when he does ask, you're really surprised.

jeanacorina · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:be8bc0ae-dadd-4738-94e9-559158746851">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't want to have a kid that is born out of wedlock
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

Okay, I'll bite.

If you don't want to get knocked up, don't participate in the necessary activities. Namely, sex. If you were so worried about what your parents would think (along with about a billion other things you should consider) then you should have thought about the possible consequences of choices you made and THEN decided if it was worth it.

I know this is MUD, but honestly so many freaking people go "OMG NOW WHAT!" like they didn't freaking KNOW what could happen.

It isn't impossible to wait to have sex until you're ready to shoulder the responsibilities that may come with it. Like, kids.

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:be8bc0ae-dadd-4738-94e9-559158746851">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]you guys are so mean!! All I wanted to know is if you are 6 months is it unlikely that he will ever ask you! <strong>I don't want to have a kid that is born out of wedlock, my parents won't forgive me!</strong> How dare you make fun of my predicament. My girlfriends and I were just talking yesterday and they said if he hasn't asked you after 6 months then he never will....
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

Perhaps you should have thought about this before having sex.

Just sayin'

jeanacorina · June 2010

Sapphire wins the "say exactly what Jeana was trying to say but in a far more concise manner" award for today.

bethsmiles · June 2010

If you are worried about your parents being mad at you then you shouldn't be getting married. Your relationship is about you and your BF you don't want to ruin it by rushing things. You should NOT get married just so your parents won't get mad at you. Be a grown up and talk to him instead of talking to your girlfriends about it. Have you had discussions with him about marriage? How old are you? How long have you been dating? He won't propose unless he is ready to.

I know that was a little blunt but you haven't said anything about your BF and how he feels in this situation and it sounds to me like you really need to talk to him about this whole thing.

Your first post has such little information that we really don't have anything to go off of. There is no month of pregnancy where the BF is supposed to propose. He is supposed to propose after you have discussed marriage and decided that you are BOTH ready for it.

Goldlie11 · June 2010

Even though I'm about 98% sure this is MUD, I think the whole well then you shouldn't have had sex thing is unfair. Lots of people have sex without wanting a child. We don't know the whole story (if there is a true one). Birth control does fail. I'm just saying...

jeanacorina · June 2010

Here's something I never understood: Getting married after you get pregnant makes it all okay and legit.

HOW IS THAT?!

It's not the pregnancy, it's the premarital sex! YOU ALREADY GOT BUSTED. Getting married so that your child isn't born out of wedlock is just crazy. The child was conceived out of wedlock, and everybody knows it.

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:dacba2e0-b8e6-48ed-9f29-2004dc6d35e0">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]Sapphire wins the "say exactly what Jeana was trying to say but in a far more concise manner" award for today.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Yay!

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catemeg · June 2010

Perhaps everyone would be convinced the 9 lb baby was a preemie? Maybe? Like, 6 months premature in this case?

Goldlie11 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:467fa981-2127-45c5-ba6e-c3d261f21050">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]Here's something I never understood: <strong>Getting married after you get pregnant makes it all okay and legit.</strong> HOW IS THAT?!?!?! It's not the PREGNANCY, it's the premarital sex! YOU ALREADY GOT BUSTED. Getting married so that your child isn't born out of wedlock is just crazy. The child was CONCEIVED out of wedlock, and everybody knows it.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]
Yeah that is pretty silly.

musikbx · June 2010

We're also forgetting to account for any sentiments of "Oh sh!t, better get married before this thing pops out - just incase it isn't his"

sbailey666 · June 2010

well I agree with Goldlie... have you had pre-marital sex jeanacorina? And if so, what would have happened if that condom failed? Would you have gotten an abortion, would you have made that decision so that you can sit on your high horse and say 'at least im not like that girl on the blog'. If you have had pre-marital sex then you shouldn't talk, because all you are is a hipocrate... and there are plenty of them on blogs.

bethsmiles · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:467fa981-2127-45c5-ba6e-c3d261f21050">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]Here's something I never understood: Getting married after you get pregnant makes it all okay and legit. HOW IS THAT?! It's not the pregnancy , it's the premarital sex! YOU ALREADY GOT BUSTED. Getting married so that your child isn't born out of wedlock is just crazy. The child was conceived out of wedlock, and everybody knows it.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I totally agree! Unless you pull off a super quick marriage people are going to know. Its not like getting married in the next three months is going to make her parents think "OMG she got pregnant right after getting married and had the baby 6 months early!" There is no hiding it at this point.

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_will-ask?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b364c380-664d-48ea-b746-d032ff05b11ePost:32d67a09-85ad-45ee-980e-dfaabfb17821">Re: When will he ask?</a>:
[QUOTE]Even though I'm about 98% sure this is MUD, I think the whole well then you shouldn't have had sex thing is unfair. Lots of people have sex without wanting a child. We don't know the whole story (if there is a true one). Birth control does fail. I'm just saying...
Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]

She knew beforehand that if she got pregnant as a result of having sex then her parents would be mad because it was out of wedlock - all I'm saying is that she should have thought about that before commiting the act.

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