When will he ask?

catemeg

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[QUOTE]well I agree with Goldlie... have you had pre-marital sex jeanacorina? And if so, what would have happened if that condom failed? Would you have gotten an abortion, would you have made that decision so that you can sit on your high horse and say 'at least im not like that girl on the blog'. If you have had pre-marital sex then you shouldn't talk, because all you are is a hipocrate... and there are plenty of them on blogs.
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

Oh snap!  Nuh uh, no she didn't!!!!!!

This has GOT to be MUD.  This girl's just too nuts.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]well I agree with Goldlie... have you had pre-marital sex jeanacorina? And if so, what would have happened if that condom failed? Would you have gotten an abortion, would you have made that decision so that you can sit on your high horse and say 'at least im not like that girl on the blog'. If you have had pre-marital sex then you shouldn't talk, because all you are is a hipocrate... and there are plenty of them on blogs.
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

I haven't had pre-martital sex! Does that mean I get to judge you?

I don't have a problem with ppl have pre-martial sex I just think you should be mature enough to handle the consquences (a baby!). You should be worried about more things than just your parents being mad at you. You are bringing a new life into this world and IMO rushing into a marriage because you are pregnant is not the best idea in the world. If you pressure him into it before he is ready then I doubt the marriage will work.

Also Jeanna is wise, listen to her! Even if you don't like what she has to say

sapphirebaby926

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[QUOTE]well I agree with Goldlie... have you had pre-marital sex jeanacorina? And if so, what would have happened if that condom failed? Would you have gotten an abortion, would you have made that decision so that you can sit on your high horse and say 'at least im not like that girl on the blog'. If you have had pre-marital sex then you shouldn't talk, because all you are is a hipocrate... and there are plenty of them on blogs.
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

This wasn't addressed to me but I'll answer the question anyway - yes I did have pre-marital sex and if our birth control failed we would have kept the child and adjusted our wedding plans around the pregnancy. If that meant scrapping all our wedding plans and JOPing it then that's what we would have done.

sbailey666

whats MUD? And, I'm not nuts!

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]whats MUD? And, I'm not nuts!
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

Made Up Drama

catemeg

MUD - seriously people, it's MUD.

jeanacorina

Yes I had premarital sex when I was young and stupid and thought every guy I thought I loved was going to marry me.

Very seriously- the first time I had sex, I thought "It wouldn't be so bad to get pregnant! I know we're going to get married someday because we love each other."

I was one of the stupidest girls I have ever known.

My husband and I made the decision very VERY early in our relationship NOT to have sex. I had my heart broken many times, I worried about what could have happened, and what my life would be like if I had gotten pregnant. We decided we would wait to have sex until we were comfortable having a child. Whether that was after we were engaged or married, we wouldn't rush into something with such serious consequences until we could happily accept those consequences.

I am not "judging" you. I am being harsh because I wish someone had slapped me in the face and said "You are naive and have no idea what you're doing." Moreover, I wish I might have listened. But I probably wouldn't have.

Because I thought I was in looooooooooove.

jeanacorina

Well, apparently this joke isn't very funny to me. Who knew?

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: When will he ask? : She knew beforehand that if she got pregnant as a result of having sex then her parents would be mad because it was out of wedlock - all I'm saying is that she should have thought about that before commiting the act.
Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]
I'm not debating that she and 99% of sexually active people know the consequences of sex.  I just feel that the whole "you shouldn't have had sex" thing is kind of unrealistic.  There have been many studies about tow unrealistic expecting abstinence from the majority of society is.  <div>
</div><div>My FI and I are seriously considering remaining childless.  Does that mean that we shouldn't have sex?  </div><div>
</div><div>P.S.  I'm still assuming this is MUD</div>

hetshup

The best way to get hitched is in the hospital between contractions, ala Lethal Weapon 4. Then you can steal someone's urine filled cup and stomp it! Mazel Tov! 

That's a lovely dress that you are wearing in your OP, I highly recommend that you cut out the belly portion, I mean you have yourself in the family way, why not show it off. "Hey girls, look at me, I gave him the milk and he still wants me!"

catemeg

Okay guys, this was my BF being an a$$.  Sorry for anyone who took it seriously - but really?  The original picture, not to mention the avatar picture... total joke.  Stupid joke, definitely, but still a joke.

If it makes you feel any better, he thought you all were hilarious.

leia1979

On the off chance this isn't MUD, then OP, you need to have this talk with your baby daddy. We can say anything in the world, and it won't make a difference. However, if you've never discussed marriage and just expect a proposal to pop out of thin air, you could be waiting a very long time.

ETA - Well, crap Catemeg. I thought that was highly entertaining.

desertsun

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[QUOTE]well I agree with Goldlie... have you had pre-marital sex jeanacorina? And if so, what would have happened if that condom failed? Would you have gotten an abortion, would you have made that decision so that you can sit on your high horse and say 'at least im not like that girl on<strong> the blog</strong>'. If you have had pre-marital sex then you shouldn't talk, because all you are is a hipocrate... and there are plenty of them on <strong>blogs</strong>.
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

What blogs are you talking about?

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]Okay guys, this was my BF being an a$$.  Sorry for anyone who took it seriously - but really?  The original picture, not to mention the avatar picture... total joke.  Stupid joke, definitely, but still a joke. If it makes you feel any better, he thought you all were hilarious.
Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

LOL...honestly tell your BF thanks! I'm so dang bored today! MUD is fun sometimes. I did start to wonder with that horrible avatar! I'm glad this isn't real though.

catemeg

I've been home sick all day, and he's been sitting next to me studying (he has evening classes for law school this summer).  He started teasing me about spending so much time on this site, and he started browsing, and I showed him the drama that went on earlier regarding noobs, and explained "future fiance" and MUD... he thought it was hilarious and wanted to have some fun.  I tried to tell you guys!!!!

hetshup

Oh I forgot to talk about post martial sex, I'm sure it's going to be completely different then premartial somehow..... If I could just figure out how....

catemeg

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[QUOTE]Oh I forgot to talk about post martial sex, I'm sure it's going to be completely different then premartial somehow..... If I could just figure out how....
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]


Yes, his spelling sucked... I kept tryin to steal the computer from him, so he typed rather fast with one hand while holding me at bay!

paintgirl

Does anyone really care if a baby is born out of wedlock these days? Some people CHOOSE to have a child out of wedlock. It's the "Wow - how did this happen?" part that gets me. A woman and a man hold each other REAL tight and then ...

I'm not making fun of you for being pregnant before you are married. You'll survive. So will your baby. And both of you might even thrive and do quite well. Being born to a single mother is not a death sentence. I'm making fun of you for thinking your bf HAS to propose because you are pregnant.

I bet most people on this board have sex before they get married. I know a few have waited and I have a ton of respect for those women. But most of us - come on. Statistically, a large number of us have done the wild thing. We use protection (right girls??) and hope for the best.

paintgirl

Well isn't that sad Catemeg. Tell your HOT bf (I can say that - I'm out of town alone right now) to do this during the workday. It would be more entertaining.

I do so love a rousing rendition of "people who engage in premarital sex are going to hell" though. Nothing more interesting than comparing sins!

catemeg

Oh, and how we've sinned...

He literally didn't stop laughing for a good half hour... he'd walk away and still be chuckling!

PaigeMcC

hehehe what fun MUD I've missed!

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]Here's something I never understood: Getting married after you get pregnant makes it all okay and legit. HOW IS THAT?! It's not the pregnancy , it's the premarital sex! YOU ALREADY GOT BUSTED. Getting married so that your child isn't born out of wedlock is just crazy. The child was conceived out of wedlock, and everybody knows it.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

They're not busted yet. They baby could be "6 months early".

OP- I think you and BF should have thought about getting married before you got KU'ed. PP were right that BC does fail but there are so many other alternatives that could have prevented this.

<strong>EDIT</strong>- TK wouldn't let me read page 2 last night..Tell BF that is one ooogly girl

sapphirebaby926

[QUOTE]I'm not debating that she and 99% of sexually active people know the consequences of sex.  I just feel that the whole "you shouldn't have had sex" thing is kind of unrealistic.  There have been many studies about tow unrealistic expecting abstinence from the majority of society is.  <div>
</div><div>My FI and I are seriously considering remaining childless.  Does that mean that we shouldn't have sex?  </div><div>
</div><div>P.S.  I'm still assuming this is MUD[/QUOTE]

Of course it's unrealistic to just not ever have sex - my first comment was really directed at the whole 'my parents will be pissed if I had a child out of wedlock'.

The truth of the matter though is that no birth control (other than abstinence) is 100% full proof so if you don't want a child out of wedlock then don't have sex until you're married. THAT was the point I was trying to make.

Anyway the OP was MUD and I'm a bit inebriated so I'm going to stop here
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jeanacorina

It was funny until he got too personal. Abortion isn't funny.

Button5807

Perhaps I'm a bitter old hag but I can't fnd the funny.

Though I shouldn't expect much from someone who doesn't lurk the site I guess.

tafft1

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[QUOTE]Perhaps I'm a bitter old hag but I can't fnd the funny. Though I shouldn't expect much from someone who doesn't lurk the site I guess.
Posted by Button5807[/QUOTE]

I'm the same way..I don't find it amusing but whatever.

CT324

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[QUOTE]you guys are so mean!! All I wanted to know is if you are 6 months is it unlikely that he will ever ask you! I don't want to have a kid that is born out of wedlock, my parents won't forgive me! How dare you make fun of my predicament. My girlfriends and I were just talking yesterday and they said if he hasn't asked you after 6 months then he never will....
Posted by sbailey666[/QUOTE]

If you were really that concered about not wanting a child out of wedlock then maybe you should have used something called birth control!!  Or are you one of those girls who thought getting knocked up would bring on the ring!!  My friend maybe you should read a book called "He's Just Not That Into You"

hetshup

I think we had too much crazy this week. So we didn't take it and run with it either. Also, abortion.....never funny.

Button5807

This thread is like my buttons, not funny.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]This thread is like my buttons, not funny.
Posted by Button5807[/QUOTE]

<div>priceless.</div>