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RD invites with wedding invites?

posted at 2/10/2012 12:58 PM EST on theknot.com

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Hi Ladies,

Quick question: is it considered bad etiquette to include RD invites in the wedding invite? I'm torn because I don't want to confuse people by putting too much in the one envelope, but we're getting calls from OOT guests who we are inviting to the RD and they are trying to book flights and such now. I'm also thinking it would be easiser for them to have all the info in one spot so they won't have to hunt for a separate RD invite.

TIA for your help!

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I've seen it done both ways. I think its just personal choice. But if you do add in the rehearsal dinner invites, make sure that won't change your postage for those specific invites.

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I think it is fine. If you are inviting everyone or just OOT. It could easily be just an extra postcard with information, this would work well if you are having pocket invitations.

Or you could do two sets of RSVP cards, one for those invited to RD, and one for not. Have an insert with information of RD in the invitations to those invited and then a spot on the response card to accept or decline.

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I've also seen it done both ways, but I would triple check to make sure that the RD budget/venue/etc is set before I put RD invitations in with the wedding invitations, because once you invite someone, you can't uninvite them.

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In Response to Re: RD invites with wedding invites?:

I think it is fine. If you are inviting everyone or just OOT. It could easily be just an extra postcard with information, this would work well if you are having pocket invitations. Or you could do two sets of RSVP cards, one for those invited to RD, and one for not. Have an insert with information of RD in the invitations to those invited and then a spot on the response card to accept or decline.
Posted by crfb87

We did it this way, and it worked very well.

Please please please double check what you're putting in the envelopes. It would suck to accidentally invite someone to the RD.

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In Response to Re: RD invites with wedding invites?:

I think it is fine. If you are inviting everyone or just OOT. It could easily be just an extra postcard with information, this would work well if you are having pocket invitations. Or you could do two sets of RSVP cards, one for those invited to RD, and one for not. Have an insert with information of RD in the invitations to those invited and then a spot on the response card to accept or decline.
Posted by crfb87

We are also doing this. We are only inviting WP and S/O's to the RD so there won't be too many that go out like that.

We are also doing this with an after wedding picnic for OOT guests.

Agree with Special though, make sure you double and triple check your envelopes before sending them out.

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posted at 2/10/2012 1:38 PM EST on theknot.com

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With all the "guests will talk" advice on theknot, I'd be wary. It sounds like your rehearsal dinner is on the bigger side, but is it impossible anyone invited to the rehearsal dinner will mention it to someone not invited? "It was helpful how LRV included the rehearsal dinner invites with the regular wedding invites" "Rehearsal dinner invitation? I didn't get one." "Oh, LRV must have left yours out by mistake. It happens. You should call her and clarify." Awkward.

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Thanks ladies. We're only inviting WP and SOs to a restaurant down the street from the church (about 30 total), but most of our WP is OOT.

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With all the "guests will talk" advice on theknot, I'd be wary. It sounds like your rehearsal dinner is on the bigger side, but is it impossible anyone invited to the rehearsal dinner will mention it to someone not invited? "It was helpful how LRV included the rehearsal dinner invites with the regular wedding invites" "Rehearsal dinner invitation? I didn't get one." "Oh, LRV must have left yours out by mistake. It happens. You should call her and clarify." Awkward.
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I think most people have a general idea of who usually is and is not invited to the RD. Someone's coworker should not get all butthurt if Grandma was invited.

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posted at 2/10/2012 9:50 PM EST on theknot.com

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I did mine separately only because I wanted to see who RSVPed yes to the wedding before I sent out the rehearsal dinner invites to save myself money.

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