posters on the boards (rant)

country_girl0118 · February 2010

im getting a bit irritated with some of the posters on the message boards. i've noticed that often if you ask for help with ideas, many people on here don't offer advice or creative ideas, they just shoot down your vision. its just really freaking annoying.

people, another bride's dream isn't wrong or lame just because it's not what you would do, wtf let's get it together people! we're supposed to be supportive of each other, planning a wedding is stressful!

ok, i'm done my rant. comment if you like, it doesn't matter.

akhensley81 · February 2010

I hear you.... but I think this is one of those things where, "it is what it is." If you're going to broadcast your problems/issues/rants/vents/emotions across the Web for thousands to see... someone is going to take the opportunity to tear you to pieces. It's a risk we all take.

This is not the first message board community I've been a part of... and belive me, it's not exclusive to TheKnot.

emarston1 · February 2010

I agree with you (partially) but at the same time, this is the SNARKY board. Of course you are going to get snarky responses. There are a lot of other boards on TK that are more supportive. Usually your local and club boards are nicer.

mbcdefg · February 2010

Is this in reference to your "vision" about a cocktail hour where there'd be a magician instead of food?

Geez, I can't imagine why people would shoot down that idea.

Mrs.B6302007 · February 2010

Have you read the title of the board on which you're posting?

Stick with your local board if too many opinions are too much.

HappyTummy613 · February 2010

You're whiny.

country_girl0118 · February 2010

helllloooooo! I wasn't posting this message about the snarky board, I was posting it on here because at the moment I feel snarky... that's a no brainer! And hey mbcdefg, you didn't even read that post all the way through, i said that the magician thing was not my favorite idea, that was something my fiance came up with... yeesh. And if you read it again, I did concede that you all had a point, but I still think something else needs to be going on, and that i'm looking for other ideas.

Liz4444 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:4f5e2c6e-c205-4a30-95d3-f832fd85532b">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]Is this in reference to your "vision" about a cocktail hour where there'd be a magician instead of food? Geez, I can't imagine why people would shoot down that idea.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

i didn't see that but it sounds like a must read!... can you attach the link?

country_girl0118 · February 2010

here, it's my wedding so here's the link to my question.

http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_time-filling-ideas-cocktail-hour

sorry i would hyperlink it but that button isn't working for me.

Mrs.B6302007 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:08102047-ec7c-4f9b-8f72-dc1b48b2d6ac">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]helllloooooo! I wasn't posting this message about the snarky board, I was posting it on here because at the moment I feel snarky... that's a no brainer!
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]
Yeah, since you didn't explain yourself clearly about which board you were referring to, not really.

Liz4444 · February 2010

thanks, i posted my ideas on there for you.

i don't think people were being rude or shooting down your vision, they were just giving you their opinion, which you asked for. just because someone's opinion isn't the same as yours doesn't make it rude. if you don't like what someone says, forget it.

and it's not like we are going to be there, do whatever makes you happy.

country_girl0118 · February 2010

Mrs. B6302007, you're right I should have been more clear. I thought since I was on the snarky board that it was self-explanatory.

Thank you Liz4444, I'm not angry or anything about what the posters had to say, they did make a valid opinion and I did note that, I said twice they were right and I should have some kind of food. Its just I'm looking for creative ideas and I'm frustrated that as I've read so far only one other person could help me think of something else to have going on. I thought that since everyone on here is a future bride or a past bride that they may have some ideas. Regardless of what they are saying I am going to have some form of entertainment going on, but I just don't know what yet, and that's why I wanted some help coming up with ideas.

megk8oz · February 2010

I'm sick of people posting that they're sick of people not validating them.

Do whatever the hell you want. Last I checked, I'm not invited to your wedding. Therefore, I don't care if your wedding sucks because you decided to be rude, in spite of "mean internet girls" trying to talk you out of it.

After all, it's "your spashul day", and frankly, I don't have to have Thanksgiving with you and your family and listen to everybody rehash about what a crappy hostess you were for the rest of your life.

_Fenton · February 2010

Here's an idea for you:

country_girl0118 · February 2010

hey megk8oz - If you reread my post, I said that I could care less whether you commented or not. Don't get your panties in a twist, it's just a message post, you don't have to read every one that you come across. I was venting, I still think it's stupid, you guys won't change my opinion, and I won't validate yours. But guess what, I'm still within my rights to vent about it. Live and let live and get the heck over it.

buddhagouda · February 2010

WHY OH WHY OH WHY CAN PEOPLE NOT GRASP THAT IT'S COULD NOT CARE LESS? If you could care less, you actually care.

redheadfsu · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:4e468e28-d1bf-44c7-9e13-82b4e0c524ff">posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]i've noticed that often if you ask for help with ideas, many people on here don't offer advice or creative ideas, they just shoot down your vision. its just really freaking annoying. people, another bride's dream isn't wrong or lame just because it's not what you would do, wtf let's get it together people! we're supposed to be supportive of each other, planning a wedding is stressful! ok, i'm done my rant. comment if you like, it doesn't matter.
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]

Yes, planning a wedding can be stressful, but why would I "get it together"? This is a platform to discuss ideas about a stressful party. Everyone seems to forget a wedding=a big elaborate party. (Marriage is a separate topic.) Yes, traditions & family can make party planning worse, but you seem to be upset that people don't like your party ideas. If you <span style="text-decoration:underline;">ask</span> for advice take it or don't, but please don't whine when you get it.

SarahPLiz · February 2010

If you ask for opinions, you will get opinions. You don't have to like them all. This is an international site, and we all have our own opinions. If you want validation, go to another board.

COming on here ranting about not getting the answers you want sounds really bratty, and makes us not want to answer your questions in the future.

I didn't read the thread on reception ideas, but a magician is for kid parties, not weddings. If you want one, though, I know one in NY that is actually really good.

banana468 · February 2010

I think you sort of missed the SB portion. It's where you go when you know the responses will be snarky.

Anyway though, I don't see why you're complaining. People gave you great advice on that thread.

Nebb · February 2010

Why does it seem like snarky brides has just turned into freaking whiney babies instead? Of the hundred or so other boards on this site, why choose this one?

country_girl0118 · February 2010

again folks, you don't have to comment if it upsets you so much. it really doesn't matter, i'm still going to post what i want to so you might as well get over it.

SarahPLiz · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:65c9433b-ff1a-44a3-96be-b2c1d0c3bfa6">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]again folks, you don't have to comment if it upsets you so much. it really doesn't matter, i'm still going to post what i want to so you might as well get over it.
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]

Exactly, You can post what you want, and because you posted it, we can comment how ever we want. That is the basic way a message board system works. COngratulations on figuring that out.

buddhagouda · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:3205c56a-973b-4b54-9c58-4f5fe8dcf2df">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]buddahgouda it's very simple, your opinions are neither required or desired. that's all. i'm going to stop replying to this post now as this is really very silly and stupid.
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm going to type this really slow, so maybe you can get it. </div><div>
</div><div>if.....you.....don't.....require......or.....desire.....opinions.....don't.......post......</div><div>
</div><div>Once you do, shockingly, you are going to get them.

</div>

HappyTummy613 · February 2010

You're not getting married until August 2011. If you get this worked up now about other people's opinions of your wedding, how are you going to make it through the next year and a half? By stomping your foot and telling people to stop reading and replying to your posts?

banana468 · February 2010

I think buddha explained why people will be responding.

OP, why does what a bunch of internet strangers say bother you? It's pretty sound advice.

kimheartsscott · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:65c9433b-ff1a-44a3-96be-b2c1d0c3bfa6">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]it really doesn't matter, i'm still going to post what i want to so you might as well get over it.
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]

Oh. SNAPS. I think it might be "on."

Is it on?

gower2be · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:1ca930d2-2e9b-4eb2-b8f5-c58eeab68b3f">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]Why does it seem like snarky brides has just turned into freaking whiney babies instead? Of the hundred or so other boards on this site, why choose this one?
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
feels more like highschool.

Blueyed228 · February 2010

OP- I would just carefully choose what boards to post on. Some boards have alot of action and are super helpful. My local board is like that. And some barely have any action and just have people looking for something to pounce on. Alot of girls (married and not married) on lots of boards have great advice and even when they dont agree with you they refrain from the name-calling and such.

Just as you have the right to post what you like, they do too. Although you may not agree with the way people say the things they do, they are entitled to say it.

Take the advice with a grain of salt and ignore the rude posters.

HappyTummy613 · February 2010

Blueyed, did you swap the Twilight quote in your sig for Pride & Prejudice?

Blueyed228 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_posters-boards-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:9b1f6ee5-05b8-4fb1-a47c-5a485f5f4ddcPost:5adff45f-9a67-4767-90a1-b332dcc440f8">Re: posters on the boards (rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]Blueyed, did you swap the Twilight quote in your sig for Pride & Prejudice?
Posted by HappyTummy613[/QUOTE]

I did. I enjoy a good love story. They remind me of my life and my relationship.

kimheartsscott · February 2010

Well in that case, I think I may need to change my sig to "We're gonna need a bigger boat."

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