Its a bit long.... sorry......
My Matron of Honor was down this past weekend. We went to a bridal show and then to my parents to assemble the save the dates.
As I was going through the things in the closet trying to find what we needed for the save the dates, she began crying. ...
She broke down because when she got married (almost 4 years ago) it was a rushed marriage. She spent less than $300. She didn't like her dress at all. She got it off Ebay because it was cheap. Her husband wore jeans and a flannel. Her mother was in the hospital and her father made a mockery of the wedding the whole time. Basically she didn't get anywhere close to the wedding she wanted.
Well her husband has promised her that she would. He put his hand on a Bible and promised she would get the wedding she wanted as their 1 year anniversary. That didn't happen so he promised it would for the 2nd anniversary etc. Their 4th anniversary is coming up quick and again its not going to happen. Her husband gets SSDI and spends the money on random stuff instead of putting some aside.
Anyway, I am worried about her and the closer my fiance and I get to the wedding, how it will effect her. I have to address all the save the dates on my own because assembling them was hard for her (ok no big deal. I will do X amount each night). I wanted to find out from her if being as hands on as she has been and continuing to do so is going to effect her more / worse than it did this weekend. I also wanted to find out if she doesn't want to be as hands on because it effects her like this.
So I talked with my Matron of Honor and she said wants to still be hands on with everything as much as possible. She said that she will be fine and that she was not expecting the emotions to hit as hard as they did. Ok. Great. Well today she asked me how addressing the save the dates were coming along. I told her I had 32 done and about 73 more to go. She then got quiet and said good luck. Then she said she had to go and gave no explanation why. She hung up before I could say bye. I'm thinking that she really can't handle any wedding related topics (at least right now). FYI I AM NOT MAKING HER HELP. SHE OFFERED SO I ACCEPTED HER OFFER TO HELP. I know she has no obligation or duty to and she's only required to show up the day of with her dress....
Well on top of that, she wont let go of this song dedication idea....
I think she is obsessed with making everyone focused on the girls side of the bridal party at the reception. At first she wanted a song dedicated to me, her and the Maid of Honor. Now she wants one for all the girls, one for me, her and the Maid of Honor, one for me and her, one for me and the Maid of Honor, one for me and each of the bridesmaids (separately). After the 2 MoH's I have 4 bridesmaids so that would be a total of 7 songs for just the girls. That's almost 1/2 hour of songs just for us. She doesn't think the guys need dedication though (with songs). I was ok with 1 song for all the girls but come on there's a point where it is too much.
I know my Matron of Honor didn't get the wedding she wanted and is probably living vicariously through mine to a point but seriously.... ugh.
Again, sorry its long....