Help!!! I really feel like my sister is more of a "wedding planner" than someone I want as my Maid of Honor. I'm feeling really conflicted in that sense. She's convenient geographically and skill set wise. There's just something in me that doesn't see her as the MoH. I don't quite know how to explain it, other than that she can be manipulative and discouraging if it isn't something she would want... She also plays devil's advocate and sometimes undermines if it means she can be in my mother's good graces. Something just doesn't feel right when I picture choosing her. I would ask my oldest friend, but she is moving to NY and we live in MD. She might not be as reliable when it comes to helping plan events, meetings, etc. in detail... but she is very supportive and kind. I feel at ease with her. I don't want my sister (or mom) to be offended if my sister ends up being the main PLANNING support system instead, I also don't want my sister to back off with helping plan if she isn't chosen. Am I being ungrateful or making the wrong choice if I choose my friend over my sister and, do you think it will backfire? Could I ask "Will You Be My Wedding Planner?" to my sister, or is that kind of rude? Soooo conflicted right now!!