Honeymoon Jar. Tacky?

littlestkitten

I've seen a lot of photos on Pinterest of jars or jugs or boxes etc. labeled "Honeymoon Fund" for reception guests to put money into. I think the idea is cute, and super helpful! But... I'm worried some guests might find it tacky. Thoughts?

holyguacamole79

littlestkitten said:

I've seen a lot of photos on Pinterest of jars or jugs or boxes etc. labeled "Honeymoon Fund" for reception guests to put money into. I think the idea is cute, and super helpful! But... I'm worried some guests might find it tacky. Thoughts?

VERY tacky!

Zhabeego

Everyone will think its tacky because it is. Begging your guests for cash is always tacky. Begging anyone for money shouldn't ever be considered unless you're homeless and starving.

Nymeru

It's definitely tacky. If your guests want to give you cash, they will. A card box more than suffices for this purpose. You could always make your card box look like these honeymoon fund boxes. This way you'll have the look you like, but none of the tackiness. Two birds, one stone.

Viczaesar

Rude and inappropriate.

banana468

It IS rude and tacky. Keep the jar on your kitchen counter.

lurkergirl

When I see money jars, I think of homeless people.  If you aren't homeless, please don't beg for money.

I posted in your other thread already, but posted here too in case you missed it (tip: Write "XP" before the title so people know it's a cross post.  No judgment; it took me a couple months of lurking to figure that one out

RebeccaFlower

Very, very tacky. I went to a wedding where there was one and it literally had like maybe $8 and some change in it. Not worth guests side eyeing you.

lurkergirl

RebeccaFlower said:

Very, very tacky. I went to a wedding where there was one and it literally had like maybe $8 and some change in it. Not worth guests side eyeing you.

Bahaha.  You mean the people who already traveled and attended and brought a gift didn't want to shell out more dough?

I guess the only thing more embarrassing than begging from loved ones is begging and having them judge the shit out of you.  I wonder if the $8 was people thinking they were tipping the bartender?  (Tip jars: also not okay)

theartistformerlyknownas

Yep, tacky and rude.

southernbelle0915

Your thought that this is tacky is correct.

Asking your guests to give you money is rude. You are not a beggar and your wedding is not a fundraiser. Pinterest tends to "cute up" tacky, rude ideas... Thinking the more burlap, lace and poetry that's on something, the more OK it is. Don't buy it - its lipstick on a pig.

misshart00

I think they're great -- for your laundry room when you're cleaning out pants pockets. They have no place at a wedding.

alpacalunch

misshart00 said:

I think they're great -- for your laundry room when you're cleaning out pants pockets. They have no place at a wedding.

This.

I've seen those same Pinterest posts, and they started out for saving up for your honeymoon in your own damned home. 

Your vacation is not in any way connected to your guests. Your trip, your money.

Maggie0829

misshart00 said:

I think they're great -- for your laundry room when you're cleaning out pants pockets. They have no place at a wedding.

Yup.

H and I had a honeymoon jar.  It lived on the floor of our bedroom next to our dresser.  And the only people who contributed to it were H and I.

JCbride2015

Please don't do this at your wedding.  It's begging your guests for money and it is very rude and offensive.

We have a honeymoon piggy-bank.  She lives on my dresser and when we empty our pockets, our change goes in there.  If you really like the idea and think it's cute, keep the honeymoon jar in your bedroom or laundry room.

peachy13

Ideally, your guests should not have to open their wallets or purses during your wedding (no honeymoon jars, no dollar dance, no cash bar, etc.).

MNVegas

Super tacky! There is nothing cute about people begging their guests to fund their honeymoon. Asking your guests for money in any form: cash, gift cards, honeymoon or other cash registries is very inappropriate.

Bubblegum5586

Yuck! Yes very tacky!!!

Smart idea coming here first and asking!!!

[Deleted User]

I went to a wedding recently where the couple had one of these. The bride told me that she and the groom put $20 in it to "get things started". Guess how much was in it at the end of the night? $20.

NYCMercedes

Not a good idea.

beethery

We have a honeymoon jar in our house. Every week, we put some cash in.

That is the way to do a honeymoon jar, not to expect people to fill it up for you.

Jen4948

Pay for your own honeymoon.  Putting out any kind of jar or expectation that your guests are supposed to finance any part of your honeymoon or their own provisions that you are inviting them to is intensely tacky and not "cute" at all.

sophhabobopha

Yeah no.

Our honeymoon jar is the batman piggy bank in the living room.

RebeccaB88

Gotta echo the others - incredibly tacky.  Not a chance that I'd contribute anything. 

Glad you asked us first. 

[Deleted User]

FH and I have one. It's sitting on our kitchen table and goes away when company comes. It's an old pickle jar. Now we have pickle (smelling) money! Should have just grabbed an old tupperware come to think of it...

doeydo

That's asking for money.  Asking for money is horribly rude and tacky.  Please, for the love of god, do not beg for money from your guests.

traditionallyuntraditional

It's tacky don't do it.

VulgarGirl

I gotta say I'm a little surprised (in a good way) no SS showed up declaring what a fantastic idea this is. It is not. It is a bad idea.

twitterbird

Yes its tacky

lyndausvi

I hate that wedding have turned from 2 people wanting to spend their lives together to lets see how much money I can guilt my family and friends out of giving us.

It's ridiculous.

Jells2dot0

martha1818 said:

MagicInk said:

I gotta say I'm a little surprised (in a good way) no SS showed up declaring what a fantastic idea this is. It is not. It is a bad idea.

What are you talking about? It's GREAT! I'm doing it for my wedding, everyone will contribute because they understand my unique special situation and they love me. Oh, also me me me me! Did I mention I'm awesome and special?

SIB

Don't forget that little poem you wrote to go along with the jar makes it okay because it's cute and will make your guests smile!