A cousin is getting married in another state so we will be traveling (flying) to attend. We received the STD over the weekend. It's addressed to H and I only. No problem for us- our kids are young and travel is easier, not to mention cheaper, without them. And every wedding we've attended since we had kids has been adult only. The only exception was when they were in a wedding (that still didn't allow other kids).
I happened to mention to my mom that the kids aren't invited but my ILs can keep them, no problem. The conversation:
Her: Wait, how do you know they aren't invited?
Me: Well, the STD card is just addressed to Mr. and Mrs. DestinationTake2.
Her: That might not mean that. It's just the save the date.
Me: Yes, but I assume the invite will match the STD. If the kids were invited, it would have their names or "& family."
Her: (checks wedding website) There isn't anything on the website that says it is "Adults Only"...
Me: Maybe not but maybe they trust people to pay attention to their invites in terms of knowing who is invited.
Her: But the family never gets to see all of you. I hope you're wrong.
Me: It's their wedding, not a family reunion.
Her: Well, I will call and find out for sure. You need to know before the invites arrive so you know how many tickets to purchase."
Me: No, please don't. We're fine.
I convinced her not to ask but I did not convince her that the kids aren't invited. She is "hoping" that their names will be on the invite. Am I right or wrong to assume that the invite will match? I have not paid this much attention before... we usually know through word of mouth about adult only weddings well before the STD arrives.
She then found something through a Google search that told her the names don't have to match. So how does this work... can you send STDs out before/without knowing for sure if kids, plus ones, etc will be included later?
(If I am wrong, she is still going to be upset because chances are that we will still go without the kids. It will be much easier if it's the couples' choice. lol)