So I went dress shopping with my bridal party. I said that I was okay with them wearing mismatched dresses, but they said they wanted to be uniform. I said okay thats cool, whatever you want. Everyone tried dresses on, and we managed to narrow it down to two dresses within budget (privately determined by each bridal party member)! Yay right?
Well not quite...After we went shopping I asked each girl privately whether or not they were okay with the dresses. The majority of the bridal party liked a strapless dress, but were fine going with either one. One BM said she liked the strapless one more than the other, but would be more comfortable if she could add straps to the dress (she didn't mention that she was uncomfortable with strapless prior to going dress shopping, despite me asking each bridal party member privately if they were uncomfortable with any dress types etc. several nights before). I was more than happy to oblige, because I want to make sure she's comfortable. I asked her two weeks later if she was 100% sure, that we can find something else, or change to two and two but she says, no its okay, I'm fine with adding straps. The girls submit their measurements to my MOH, she collects the payments, and places a group order.
Fast forward to today I get a text from that BM saying "Hey I have this great idea! Why don't I wear a different dress than everyone else!" I haven't responded to her yet. I don't understand why she wouldn't tell me anything during our private conversations (because I feel as though I gave her plenty of times to speak her peace before and after we went shopping). Also, this BM chose a dress a few months back that was being discontinued. It didn't fit her (couldn't be altered), non-returnable, and I had to pay back the bridal party members who ordered the the dress. Because the dress is made to measure, I worry that I will have to refund them yet again, which I don't have the funds for.
What would you do if you were in my position? How should I handle this?