So, my girls got wrap dresses, because finding a dress to flatter everyone is just not possible. They got full-freedom for how they were to style, shoes, hair, accessories & make-up with the exception of a few key items, which were always bolded & bulleted in emails, and a repeated phrase in BM meetings;
- hem to floor-length dress, with the exception of the maid & matron, who if they wanted to (but did not have to), could get high-lo cuts
- no black or hooker clear heels, but they must be heels, because most of the guys are tall. you are welcome to change into flip flops right after the ceremony
- try your best to cover your boobs during the church ceremony, feel free to let them hang out at the reception (not really, but I did let them know that they could change their more conservative style to a more 'dramatic' style for the reception if they would like)
That being said, I am at a crossroads for my one bridesmaid who cut her dress at the knee.
My mother is livid. She gave my maid of honor an earful, which she asked to be relayed to BM. My mother says that BM is no longer welcome at home, has ruined the photos (because for whatever reason, she always ends up right next to me or at the end, therefore unable to hide her shorter dress). My matron of honor told me that when they picked up their dresses from the seamstress, she repeatedly asked and prodded that those were not the directions I gave, but BM kept on insisting it was alright. All "etiquette" aside, would you have a heart to heart with said BM? Have a girlfriend do it for you?
(How do I feel about it? I was surprised and shocked on the morning of - that's when I saw it ... but I knew then & there that I couldn't do anything about it, and that she would have to own up to f-ing up the pictures if anyone asked, so I didn't pay it any mind ... it's just the more and more people ask, the more frustrated I get ... and I'm tired of cropping pictures from the knee up, just to give it some uniformity) (Mister is upset, thinks it sucks, but is not very confrontational, and doesn't want things to get awkward)
TL;DR : Bridesmaid (pictured below) cut dress knee-length (against "rules" of floor-length) ... my mom is very annoyed/mad/furious and wants confrontation/apology ... She thinks pictures are "ruined" ... I don't really care anymore (was irked, but didn't have time to get upset on wedding day) as I don't see the point in bringing it up ... Thoughts / support / comments / suggestions (you can ignore poll)