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walking the isle questions

so i am just slightly confused on something, is there someone that should be escorting my mom down the isle? my mom is divorced, and my father isn't around. and Fiances parents are deceased as well. so trying to figure out who would play this role.

my son is playing two parts as a groomsmen and walking me down, do i have him escort his nana too?
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Re: walking the isle questions

  • Do you have a brother that could do this? Or anyone else in your family/friend circle that your mom is close to?  Doesn't necessarily need to be a male.

    She doesn't need anyone to walk her at all, either.  If she is comfortable walking alone, that would be perfectly fine.  If you are close with her, you could also consider having her walk you down the aisle with your son.


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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall
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    Many people have mothers escorted, but it isn't necessary.
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  • thanks just 7 months away and trying to finalize things, migraine here we come LOL.... im only child no cousins or anything either :(
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom South Jersey
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    thanks just 7 months away and trying to finalize things, migraine here we come LOL.... im only child no cousins or anything either :(

    Are you having any BMs?  If so, if you have your son escort your mom down the aisle, he can circle back around down a side aisle (while your BMs process) to then escort you down the aisle.  Or you could have your FI escort your mom down, then he goes to take his place up front.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado
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    first it's "aisle". 

    Do you have any uncles? Brothers?   It's not a requirement, but I think it's nice if you plan on her being part of the processional.     

    I like the idea of your son walking her down the circling around to walk you down.






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  • We didn't have our mothers as part of the processional, we just had reserved seats in the front for immediate family.

    If you did want her to be in the processional tough I kind of like the idea of yor FI walking her down. I think it's sweet and kind of exemplifies that they are becoming family. Then your son could walk back with her during the recessional. 
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  • My dad doubled back as well after seating my mom. No big deal. There was plenty of buffer room with the bridesmaids walking.
  • edited January 2016
    I'm pretty sure my groom escorted my mom. And then took his place up at the front. I'm fairly certain that's how we did things.

    Also (because it bothers me), the word you want is aisle, not isle. Unless of course you are getting married on a teeny tiny island such that your aisle takes up the entire length of said isle.
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  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten Detroit, MI
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    We asked FMIL who she wanted to escort her in the processional because we knew she would be sensitive about it.
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  • Yes Aisle- i was rushing my posts again LOL... and i do not have uncles or aunts, My fiances parents are deceased, but however him and my mother are getting along that might work :)
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado
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    My brother (maybe both of them) walked down both moms.  In their case it was together.

      I think it would be sweet for your FI to walk down your mom.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • We figured either everyone should walk down the aisle in pairs, or everyone should go solo...or at least some solo/some coupled in a way that didn't make it look conspicuous that my mother doesn't have a partner.

    So we basically  just picked a friend of the family (and gave my mom input into who it was) to walk her down the aisle. We basically would have let her pick anyone. 

    For my brother's wedding, I don't remember the aisle processional, but they announced everyone into the reception. In that case my mom was escorted by her uncle (the announced "Mother of the Groom Jane Doe, escorted by Uncle Jim", for example). It was the same uncle who walked her down the aisle at her own wedding 30 years earlier, so it was really sweet, actually. 


  • I'm also an only child. I walked down the aisle with both of my parents.
  • thanks, i might have my mom and son share the moment :)
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